baby won’t settle

Same!

@Hayley I don’t know what to do to fix the problem

I think she must like the closeness of being in bed with you. Do you want her to always sleep separately from you or mix and match your bed and Moses basket?

Your first mistake was placing her in your bed lol, mine is 2yrs and 3 months and still in our bed. There's this bed on Amazon that can fold over on your bed which makes baby feel close to you Baby Bedside Sleeper, 3 in 1 Folding Portable Crib

Yeah, she just likes the closness. They feel safe nearer to us. I used to 'wear' a muslin, down my shirt or round my neck and whenever I went to put my little one down I'd put the muslin close or kind of swaddle her in it so she could smell me

This is the universal struggle. They figure out they love sleeping in your arms or next to you and not anywhere else. Some people contact nap for the first few weeks... We had to rock to sleep and then put bub down, for a while, but eventually was able to rock less and less until he was able to be put down in his crib and fall asleep in it. But took a couple of months to get there. Xx

@Susan I would prefer separate because I don’t want her getting use to co sleeping with us in the bed

@Nelly I do have a next to me crib but she just doesn’t settle in that either

It’s normal. You will see loads of Moses baskets on Facebook marketplace with ‘hardly used’ on it. Baby wants to be close to you. I don’t really have much helpful advice other than have you tried to put something that smells of you in the basket. I put the mattress in a T-shirt I have been wearing as a sort of bedsheet before I put them in. Then the bed smells of me.

@Emma yeah mine didn't either to be fair, it's as though they feel your warmth when close by, I know a few friends used the snuggle pod, unfortunately that didn't work for us either. Maybe you could continue to try with the cot/next to me and see

@Steph no I’ll give this a go tonight

Also you could keep your top or something with your scent to help initiate your presence

@Katherine I rock her to sleep then as soon as she gets put in the basket she wakes up crying xx

@Emma I spoke to LOADS of mum mates and a load of them divulged they also did the same 😉 Check out lullaby trust maybe for safe sleeping?? My baby went in the next to me last night but ON the sleepy head (not recommended for over night sleeping). I have 2 Moses / 1 next to me / 1 sleepyhead - but she loves a contact nap! Think it’s trial and error 😉

@Hayley I have 2 sleepy heads and she hates them x

Yeh, it's tough! You just have to figure out what works for you. We did some naps in the pram and car to help. To be honest the first 6 weeks we basically did all contact naps or naps in the pram. And we were able to rock to sleep and put in cot for nights. Then we started working on more naps in the cot after 6 weeks. I think black out blinds also helped keep the room dark. Sorry don't really have a great solution, but hope you don't feel alone as most mums have been there :)

@Katherine Thankyou x

Try prewarming the moses basket with a hot water bottle, my little one loves this and now she has no issues being put into the basket even without it being prewarmed, maybe settle her with something you've worn that day too so it has tour smell, like your bed does xx

Put her bed sheets in your bed before they go on hers. She smells you off them. Get a co sleeper so that she's sleeping by your side but not in your bed.

I put a Muslim that smelt like me under him and I just carried on trying every night and he eventually has got used to it x

Babies are never too young to learn so she can learn how to settle without you. If you want to start tonight put her in the Moses basket next to you and let her cry for a little bit. Then pick her up until she calms down then try again. Eventually she should learn 😊

Buy a sleepyhead, I had the same issue and now my 3 week old sleeps in it and loves it! Midwives don’t recommend it but everyone I know uses them and they’re popular for a reason. Much safer than being in your bed

Don’t know if it would work on a Moses basket but a Rockit on the cot worked to get her to sleep in that! X

@Gaby thankyou x

Heating pad.. remove it before u put baby in obviously but it has been a game changer for us and gettin him settled

One thing that helps mine when I transfer her to crib is keeping a my finger tips under her neck for a few mins and my other hand on her chest. Just seems to help it not be a sudden change and stops her waking up! Worth a try- good luck! X

@Susan this is TERRIBLE advice.

@Jade really?? That's me told. What the heck do I know? After all, I've got a 17 year old and 10 week old baby, who by the way, knows the difference between daytime and nighttime and also has started to sleep for 6 hour stretches at night. Pretty terrible, right?