Toxic in laws
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@Haley we've tried this and she still just feels she can come over whenever she feels like it.
@Arielle does your husband back you up or does he support his mom? If he supports you, either way if you’re home or not and she comes around I’d go about my day as if she weren’t, literally ignore her. Then she’d get the message hopefully. You tried being nice first, now it’s time to play the game her way until she gets it
@Haley it's is soon to be step mom. But he supports me he was livid when she also messaged him about it. Thats what I told him because we have grocery shopping to do and other little errands
If it was me i would text them saying we dont want people over and if they still come just lock the door and dont let them in....
I mean unless she has a key you don't have to answer lol if you expressed your feelings and it's being ignored then you have the right to ignore stuff too
I would say something along the lines of ‘Hey! In the future I would greatly appreciate if you asked to come over in advance. We may have already made plans and cannot accommodate you. To make it easier on everyone it would be great if you asked what day and time worked best for us!’ That way it’s polite and you’re gently setting boundaries 💕