Toxic Family Won’t Respect Boundaries

I’m about ready to scream yall. My family treats me like I gave up my rights to my daughter, Cora, like I’m not even a parent all the time. Any time I try to set a boundary about my child with them I get told to “get over it I’ll do what I want with her”. No matter what, without fail, every time. My boundaries are simple too: -do not spank MY child, no “popping” on the hands either let alone on the butt -do not call my child mean names when reprimanding her (ex. My grandma called Cora a little shit when she grabbed her book) -do not force my child to hug or kiss you, either by physical force or emotional manipulation (ex. Fake crying because she won’t hug or kiss you) -do not talk crap to or about me in front of my child, do not put me down or yell at me in front of my child I feel like these are pretty solid & basic rules but my family just does not get it and I’m at the point where once I get my own place & primary placement of Cora back, (currently live with grandma due to not saving up when I was a teenager, working on saving for a car & place now) I’m limiting my family’s contact with her HEAVILY and they don’t even realize it. The only reason I don’t currently have primary placement, but I do have joint custody with my aunt, is because last year my PPD got so bad I couldn’t take care of her properly so I willingly went to my aunt and asked her for help taking care of my daughter so that my daughter could be with someone who could care for her better than I could temporarily while I got my mental and financial shit together. TLDR- family constantly ignores my reasonable boundaries with my daughter bc they don’t see me as a parent & I’m sick of it