How often does your husband/partner go out?
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We both get one hobby day and one friend catch-up day out per week, each. He has bowling Tuesdays, I have my salsa Latin socials Friday night. Thursdays and Saturday nights are for friend catch-ups, but that’s not every week that’s when the friend/s is also free. Or one of us will just drop by their house. We spend the day together on Sat day out and all day Sunday, this has been working for us for a couple years now. We had a double date last night. It’s not fair that your partner gets to go out every weekend and you don’t- find a hobby and demand that couple hours to yourself, and/or friend catch-ups to make it a lil more fairer for each side. So you’re not telling him to stop, rather you’re saying “give me the Friday night and you take Saturday” etc.
We are homebodies
That’s not right. We would be having a serious talk.
My fiance and I are attached to the hip and do everything together. That's one of the reasons why I liked him because he was a homebody like me who didn't care to make friends with shallow people like so many others.
@Marie ⭐️ yess ! Same!! We’d rather be in eachothers presence plus he doesn’t like people that much 😂😂
@Sasha Hi Sasha! I am furious. I’m at the point where we’re talking divorce. This has been going on for months now. He’s started to drink a lot and go out more staying out late. But it’s hard because I don’t have a job. Our son is 1 yr old. I’m so frustrated. I’m glad your husband made the switch and started staying home more. We only have one kid. I feel hopeless.
@Kellie That sounds like a healthy balance. The problem is sometimes I’m okay with him going out, the problem is he doesn’t know when to come home. Last night it was 3am. I’m just not okay with that.
@Roxy we’ve had several serious talks. There’s been no change. This morning he said he knows he has a drinking problem but that’s something we’ve discussed already and he’s in therapy with an alcoholic specialist. I’ve seen no change in his behavior. I guess the next step is divorce but that’s extremely difficult when I have no job.
@Marie ⭐️ I would give anything to have that. I’m so disappointed in the lack of support he’s given me. He spends time with us on Saturdays and Sundays if he’s not working but that’s all we get. As soon as it hits 8pm, he’s out the door. He said we’ve lost the spark since we had the baby (he’s just a year old). It’s clear he’s given up and doesn’t want to try working on our marriage.
@Jade same, we want to like people, but they're often so stupid and selfish for our liking.
@igcognito, that sounds ridiculous! A spark? He's basing his marriage off of feelings that are highly subjective. This is why I don't get with feelers. Only thinkers for me. Relationships based on feelings just don't last in my studies.
Mine does that but he compromises with me a LOT. So find a middle ground.
@Marie ⭐️ It is ridiculous but here we are.
@Lesley That doesn’t work. Every compromise we’ve come up with, he just completely disregards. I’m tired of compromising at this point.
It’s not normal. I’d be furious. Unless we switched weekends & I could go out with my friend until 2am too. My husband did this once every 3 weeks, but football season it was 3 nights a week, sometimes more in the day, or he just wouldn’t tell me or he’d work late afterwards. He would justify that he works hard & needed it for his mental health, while I can talk to my friends on the phone all day (um no), or I can meet up with my friends anytime (with our kids!), take a nap whenever I want (LOL ok?!) & don’t have the stress of having to make money (what?!). Then I had our 3rd baby & everything finally switched…he saw what it was like to take care of 2 kids on his own & he hardly ever does it without his parents,the kids want him to put them to bed, he has to get up with them at night while I’m getting up with the baby, they cry for him in the morning so I stay in bed & he’s too tired to do anything even at home past 9pm LOL. I just don’t know how long it’ll last, but I haven’t asked!!