Lazy parenting from partner?

So my partner works full time so I get he is tired and wants to unwind and have his time on his days off but he is still a dad and still needs to put the effort and time in for our daughter and for me. I do literally everything, basically all childcare, meals, cleaning, food shop. I don’t want my daughter exposed to too much screen time (I only put it on when I’m making dinner etc so she is occupied) but usually I get on the floor and play with her, read books, sing songs or take her out to the park or play groups etc. this morning I was cleaning up the kitchen after breakfast and asked partner to go into the living room with her to play. He literally stuck the tv on and just sat on the sofa on his phone ignoring her, even when she was walking over to him (literally only started walking this week! So it’s so exciting but he didn’t acknowledge her as he was scrolling through Instagram) I came in and saw this and turned the tv off and told him he needs to interact with her. He got really pissed off at me and just left the house. Was I in the wrong to do that? I just feel exhausted doing everything by myself and also feel it’s unfair on our daughter to not have his undivided attention when he is here. Anyone else’s partner the same??

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Mine is same. He even lashed on me several times. If our daughter who is 22 months comes close to him when he is eating and wants to sleep. We both work full time. I am in the same boat of doing everything except grocery shopping as my partner does it. He even had a an agreement with me several time and now he is not talking to me at all.

He doesn’t sound very paternal. But if he doesn’t want to do the fun dad jobs then he has to do the household chores. He doesn’t get to sit around doing f*** all. You have a 24/7 job. He has a 9-5 job, 5 days a week. That means while he’s at work, your job is to look after the childcare. When he gets home, I’m sorry but he’s going to have to accept that he has to pull his weight, either by doing the boring house chores or by spending quality time with his child. Make a list of everything you do and get him to do the same. I’m sure when you compare lists he will come to realise he really isn’t pulling his weight, and he can choose which tasks to take over to make the balance more fair. If he isn’t willing to balance out the workload then he’s not a good partner and you might honestly be better off single parenting. At least that way you’re not dealing with a child AND a man-child.

My hubbie always interacts with them but does take time to do his games and tik tok. We have it so after dinner before they go to bed he goes and plays with them for a while till they get tired. That way he has time to unwind after work. In weekends he wants to take them out with him to do errands or get breakfest

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