Venting

So I have a 5 month old sweet baby boy as of tomorrow and I am like really close to go off on everyone. I know I am a first time mom and everything but I wish everyone would stay in their lane. Last month I got diginosed with postpartum anxiety and no one understands it. Everyone (my in laws and even my parents) are constantly trying to get me to leave him with them and I don't want to. And it isn't only that it is I don't trust people even if they are family because of something that happened in my past. But since day one they have been trying to get me to leave him with them by guilt tripping, using things against me ect. I don't know if I am being over bearing or whatever but they are constantly trying to tell me how to parent. Take him. Not following my rules or guidelines. I don't know what to do.

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Your baby, your rules.

@Natasha 1000% correct!

my lo is 7 months old and ny famiky has also been pressuring! it it 100% up to you! i dont understand why people cant just understand that anxiety is real and trying to pressure things especially on new moms doesnt help!

My 1st is just over 2, and my in-laws are constantly asking when they can have my baby for a weekend. And I just… I don’t answer them. I don’t even acknowledge them when they ask. Until they understand that my child has a severe dairy allergy, they are not allowed to watch my child. My 2nd is almost 7 months, and no one gets them. Except my parents. My parents have had both kids for a weekend, so my husband and I could go away and connect. But, my parents also respect me and our parenting. My in-laws… do not.

My MIL tried that with my third one (her first grandkid). I did not let that shit fly. My first kid I never spent a night away from until she was over a year. Once she started going to daycare I was more ok with people taking her during the day. But none of my babies have spent a night away from me until they have been on a good sleep schedule which hasn't been until about 6 months old, especially if I'm nursing

I agree, your baby your rules! I’m SICK TO DEATH!!!!!!! Of me telling people friends, family, even my partner DONT DO THIS, DONT DO THAT and they QUESTION ME as if I need it justify why I want soemthing don’t or not done with MY children! At first my family were all about the baby, oh I’ll take them for a few hours here and there and now they’re older it’s a completely different story! When my sister watches my son(2yrs) he is ALWAYS ALWAYS hurting himself! My niece who is 5 always wants to carry my 6m old! Always wants to hold her, she will literally SCREAM AND CRY till you give in! Even if I’m like no for whatever reason she will go ask her mum and she will eventually give in and let her do what I don’t want her to do! It’s like 🙄🙄🙄

I am glade to know I ain't the only one it is just hard because I am a people pleaser but I want to do what is best for my baby, myself, and my husband. And I haven't had the best thing with my parents like I once did and i hate how they make me feel like I am a disappointment just because they don't approve of my husband so I don't want my baby around that. And my in laws I love them I do but they just over step a lot and I feel like I ain't doing good at being a mom or that I am just wasting my breath because they will do whatever they want.

Your feelings are valid and maybe it’s time to have an honest conversation about drawing boundaries and having them stick to it.

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