Coseeping/ feeding to sleep

Never wanted to cosleep but we have fallen in to it due to my 8 month old waking every hour/ less, it was too tiring. My little one is EBF and relies on being fed to go to sleep. He will be rocked to go to sleep in the day but not on the night he just screams, the only way I can get sleep is by cosleeping but I don’t really want to anymore. Was anyone else in my position and has managed to break the habit of cosleeping/ feeding to sleep. My little one also won’t take a dummy I’ve tried so many different ones.

Last night I tried him in his own cot and he lasted a bit on his own then it got to a point where he was waking less than every 10 minutes. Any advice is welcome 🩷

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I was ebf but moved my LG to bottles as it was getting to the point of being ridiculous. I could not cope with constant frequent wakes. We also moved hercto her own room and started sleep training. I still feed her to sleep for naps. But at bedtime, I pull out before she dozes off and leave her to express her displeasure . She then falls asleep after a while(can take upto 45mins). She was furious the first few nights but after a week, she now gets it that I won't let her fall asleep on boob. She plays/babbles etc till she is exhausted. Then comes to me for cuddles and sleeps. It was horrendous for the first few nights but paying off now. I remain next to her the whole time, patting and shushing her, calming her but not feed.

mine refuses a bottle 🤦🏼‍♀️😢did you keep rocking in your arms after you pull out until she calms down then put her in the cot? Do you do the same process for each waking in the night?

We’re the same 😊 I have recently started putting her in her own room when she’s fallen asleep. Now, she’ll usually wake around 11pm for a feed (she does wake a few times before but will settle with rocking at the moment) then she tends to wake again around 1 (which is usually only an hours sleep for me as she’ll take a while to settle). But after the 1am feed I often bring her in to bed and cosleep the rest of the night because she won’t settle in her cot and is awake every few minutes.

There’s been a couple nights where I’ve been able to settle her and she’s stayed in her cot until 3ish.

I have a few friends do who have done this and now all of them have a baby/toddler who sleeps in their own and sleeps through the night.

Keep offering the bottle everyday and one day hopefully he will take it. Offer an hour after feed and preferrlably slightly warm.
I rock her till she is drowsy, closing her eyes. Then I place her on her cot and feed her. I pull out when I see she is about to sleep. She gets annoyed but now understands the drill. I leave her be lying next to her. She usually cries when exhausted and comes to cuddle. Then sleeps off.
For wake ups, my husband goes in. Cuddles her, no picking up. He offers a bottle which she sometimes takes. But usually sleeps by cuddles.
We noticed that picking her up completely resets her, so we don't do that.

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Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

Baby clothes

Just out of curiosity, why do parents love zipper onesies?

Don’t get me wrong, I tried zipper ones it’s easy to zip in and out when putting it on the first time and taking it out, but I find it difficult when changing diapers especially when baby is asleep.

I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

Car seat

No idea which car seat to get next. Please hit me with your recommendations, 1year+ (preferably rear facing or 360). Thank you 🫶🏻

This might rattle some people

Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.