MIL HELP

So my partner doesn’t talk to his mum, he hasn’t since before we met really. He tried to rekindle their relationship when I feel pregnant but it just didn’t stick and I didn’t feel that it was my place to talk for both of them you know?

So I stop texting her and told him it was up to him and her if they wanted to talk and I wasn’t going to be out it that awkward of a situation (especially whilst being PP) and things have been fine between me and my partner since.

But we both got a text of MIL saying that she would be visiting our city (which is about a 3hr journey to get to from where she is) and she just wanted to let us know and I’m so worried that she is going to either show up at my home or my job and it is giving me so much anxiety!

I don’t know what to do!!

Help??

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Surely it's a good opportunity for your partner to sort things out with his Mum?

they had a terrible relationship growing up and he moved away after she threatened to kill herself because of him and I’m not sure I’m he wants to invite that back into his life.

thank you, I appreciate your response but my partner isn’t sure that he wants to invite the drama that she brings back into his or our daughters life. She has left him with quite severe trauma. I know that she’ll treat our daughter completely differently to how she treated him but he doesn’t want to risk the chance of her using our daughter against us if that makes sense?? x

just because someone has a title doesn’t always mean they deserve to be in a child’s life. People don’t just cut contact for no reason.

couldn’t agree more

Make a plan so it's within your control. Plan to eat out somewhere and if it gets to be too much, you can always say baby needs to eat or such as a reason to need to leave. Gives her the chance to meet baby, but doesn't push into your boundaries and comfort zone. Her reaching out does sound like she's trying to make an effort to have a relationship, can give this chance to see if you want to have one or not

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