Discipline

How do y’all handle dad going back on your rules/consequences? I’m the one home with them 24/7 without a break and he only sees the one for about 30 mins min-Friday and on the weekends and the other is a couple months old so a non issue at this point. I say no because our toddlers done something he’s not supposed to and it’s something he knows he isn’t supposed to do and normally self corrects but occasionally he doesn’t listen and keeps doing it and I scold and he throws a tantrum- dad immediately comforts saying it’s okay your okay it’s fine…. To me this is basically saying to him do what you want and ignore mom she doesn’t care about your feelings when I’m just trying to get a handle on life because I’m the one always handling the outbursts.

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Have you told him that it's encouraging the behavior? All I do is tell him in the moment if something is conflicting with what I've told my toddler

I have the same issue with my husband. I told him by you enabling her bad behavior, she will continue to misbehave and eventually she’ll become uncontrollable. When that happens you’re on your own. I already did my part warning you

I feel like I’m the laid back parent and my husband is so strict. I don’t go back and reverse what he does or says but I do have talks with him. My husband can be very controlling and political and so I don’t think he allows the kids to be freaking kids.

If you haven’t already I’d have a sit down talk explaining how exhausting it is trying to teach and communicate with our little ones atm, to him it may seem rough (maybe if you’re getting triggered you might consider working on a little🫶🏼) but if you’re rightfully teaching him your mans gotta learn it’s temporary and it’s how we shape little people with no idea of right or wrong into great little kids☺️ maybe explain you can empathize with his feelings of feeling bad so do you probably at times, but he needs to do the same with your feelings. Toddlers are really hard work a thing I do with my son for being “mean” to our friends or animals is physically stop what he’s doing after telling him once “that’s not kind you need to respect my/their space” then I tell him eye to eye “we’re nice to our friends and animals” and make him hug or nicely pet the animal. Basically I get very triggered by my son bc my parents so I’ve worked a lot on not screaming but I still validly get to the point🫶🏼

Maybe it's just me but I wouldn't say that comforting him is encouraging the behavior. You can help a toddler work through their emotions and then still not let them get their way and still call it discipline. But if he gives him whatever toy or whatever he's throwing a tantrum about THEN I would say that's going back on ur word. If he's just comforting him, then I would suggest that ur toddler is getting the best of both worlds at home. Some authority and structure.... and also some cuddles. Like good cop bad cop lol

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