Boundaries

Rant. where do I start. Since the moment I got pregnant my now fiancés grandmother has been at his hip and been disrespectful towards me. She body shamed me when I was pregnant commented on my weight, right after he proposed to me she brought up how she still has pictures of his ex and him. it’s a constant battle. Now that my son is here, when he first started solids she gave him chocolate right infront of our faces as I was yelling NO. I had to beg my fiance to tell her because I feel like it’s not my place and he told her I said not to do that anymore and she apologized. Now the other day here she goes again feeding him chocolate pudding. Mind you me and my partner have been on great terms and I feel like she just wanted to stir the pot. She knows it’s still not okay because what makes a different between 6 months and he’s now 9 months. It’s still a NO! my fiance and I argue because of HER. and he can’t seem to put his foot down/cut the cord. She’s obsessed and maybe he is too. I just feel like i’m battling over my own man. i’m stuck on what to even do at this point it’s affecting our relationship so much. I’m uncomfortable, idk why he can’t just stick up for me. he hates confrontation but that was a boundary I set and she has once again disrespected me.

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I feel like if he won’t put his foot down despite not liking confrontation, he is not only disrespecting you as a person and as a mom as well. Unfortunately grandma is just only going to keep doing as she pleases since he doesn’t say anything to her. You CAN say something as it is YOUR son. In my personal opinion, I wouldn’t have her around until she starts respecting your decisions that you make for your child.

I have had my own mom and my father in law do the same to me. My response is- I made him in my body so it’s my rules. When you make a baby you can set the rules. The end. If it’s gonna cause a fight I pick him up and leave. If you’re in my house- it’s my rules there too. Doesn’t have to be a fight but it’s also not a negotiation. My husband doesn’t always agree but he’s not gonna fight with me when he sees how much I give to him and our son and how hard I work to make our lives good. Stick to your guns- HE’s YOUR BABY! You got this mama!

@Wendy we’re going to sit down together and have a talk with her. because i’m sick of it and him beating around the bush. it’s not okay and he just lets it slide and that’s why she continues. So we will see how this “talk” goes

@Amanda and that’s the issue he thinks it’s okay knowing it’s not but lets it slide just because it’s his grandma and she can’t do nothing wrong in his eyes. She’s obsessed and body shamed me while I was growing him now she can’t even respect my boundaries and he can’t put his foot down.

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