Mil problems
Babyboy had covid- got over Covid but was left with the sniffles. We see MIL and family- all proceed to kiss our child which usually would be ok- but he’s still somewhat poorly and SO IS MY MIL. Next day- we have plans to see them all again and baby boy seems a little worse so we put a rule in place; no kissing the child. MIL instantly breaks this and kisses him. Then I over hear her saying to him “I know you want me to kiss you but I’m not allowed” in a playful tone.. this is a huge ick like go away. Anyway- proceeded to kiss him multiple times throughout the day and is like “oops” and laughs about it.. I’m really not sure how it’s funny?
She then picks him up whilst he’s sleeping and cuddles him… he’s sleeping? Then proceeds to tell us she is changing his nappy and walks into the other room and keeps him in there with him?!
She’s massively overstepping grandma duties and somehow takes over mum duties? I can’t be alone with my son around her as she’s there behind me watching him or trying to talk to him.. as with every other family member also!
Urgh I had to rant. There is SO much more I could write.
You’re going to have to get firm with boundaries. If she kisses him after being told no, take him away and explain that she can only hold him if she doesn’t kiss him and continue to do that. If you don’t want her changing his diaper then you can just be like “oh I’ve got it” and grab your baby and go change him. If she’s trying to talk to him while you are doing things, go to another room and shut the door. Make sure your husband is on board as well. Ask him to tell her to back down and accept your boundaries. If he doesn’t have your back then the issues will never be resolved. be prepared for her to cut contact. I confronted my MIL and haven’t seen or heard from her since. July will be a year since she’s seen my oldest and has never seen my baby.