Am I petty?

It’s mine and my partner’s anniversary tomorrow (not married, just a memorable day). On our first anniversary, he suggested going for food (he forgot, didn’t get me a card). Last year he forgot (next day I got some lovely earrings and a card) - I was two weeks away from giving birth and I was so upset I wasn’t acknowledged.

Both times I’ve mentioned anniversaries are important to me, and just a card is appreciated.

It’s our anniversary tomorrow, I’ve got him a card & present which he’ll get tomorrow night after he is home from work (he is working away).

Question is, do I wish him happy anniversary tomorrow morning or do I not mention it until he sees his card etc. and see if he has remembered?

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I suppose it is smaller in comparison to all the other things he does for me, which is why I make such an effort.

I’m so terrible for memory, I have ADHD and forgetting or moving on to something else is so hard - so I have calendar reminders etc

I don’t know, I just don’t feel all that special/appreciated when I’ve got to remind him of our anniversary.

I plan everything we do, would be nice to not plan something.

Thank you 🙏 appreciate your comment.x

I try not to set traps for people. It becomes a game and no one wants to be played with. Send him happy anniversary and try not get caught up in the different perspectives. This is important to you but understand that it may not be as important to him and that’s ok. If you send him happy anniversary in the morning and he doesn’t get you anything, then be upset.

Remind him and let him know you expect something 🙏

If you ask my fiancé when my birthday is you’ll probably hear 3 different dates before he gets it right (if he does) (he also decided to propose on my birthday as it’s “one less date to remember” but still gets it wrong 🤦🏻‍♀️ )

What I’m saying is men and dates do not go hand in hand 😂 just remind him in the morning and save yourself the upset when he doesn’t remember

of course. There are plenty of things I don’t find interesting or important but if it is to my partner, I make an effort to know a little about those. I think that the least a person can do to show you care.
Thank you 🙏 appreciate it.

it’s exactly what I did this morning. Sent it in a separate message to the morning message. 🤗 x

this made me laugh, because I’m also like this which is why my phone calendar might burst with reminders. 🤣

Sent him a message, and said he can plan something for us to do Saturday evening.

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