My husband

Howdy y’all um im not really sure we’re to start. I’m a new mom to a beautiful baby and I’m pretty positive my husband is cheating on me. I went through his phone (yes I know shame on me) and found some messages from a number not saved in his phone. At first the messages were innocent talking about a paint job that the person wanted to get done. Then there were gaps in the messages where things weren’t making any sense. Then I guess he forgot to delete some messages. One of them saying “I can please the both of you if y’all are into it” and “are you both going to be at your house I’m horny ngl” and even one the confirms that he has done something with the one person. But when I confronted him about it he said he doesn’t know anything about it and that he didn’t send those messages when him and I are the only ones who have his phone. He’s been very cagey since but also very loving and I’m not sure why. And I’m scared that he is actually cheating on me. Also when I said I wanted to message the person he said no and to just give him his phone and that I didn’t need to message them and that I just needed to trust him. I just don’t know what to do and if he is cheating on me I have no where else to go all of my family has full houses and have no room for me and my baby. And my in laws are extremely religious so I’m not sure if they’d even believe me that their son would cheat because they didn’t raise him that way Please help me. I don’t know what to do.

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I’m so so sorry to hear that. I’m so heartbroken for you. Your family will most certainly make room especially because of the baby. Your in-laws will have a hard time but you gotta at least give them the chance to decide for themselves. If you’ve got proof to show them they will definitely have no choice but to believe it (I say this from personal experience of having to ask my in laws to intervene on an issue we were having). I didn’t have proof, my crying and distress was honestly enough for them to act and intervene. So so sorry girl, sending a huge hug your way ♥️

He is 100% cheating. I'm sorry. Don't listen to the lies. That is hard cold proof. As above said, if you have good relationships with in laws or your family should try to help in whatever ways they can.

Sorry to hear girl. Don’t jump to conclusions just yet but try to get a hold of the messages again and take screenshots and send them to yourself. Also save the number and contact the person to fill in the missing pieces. There’s always 3 sides to every story. If he’s acting shady you gotta get to the truth your own way

@Lis there's no jumping to conclusions with those texts. To even try to pretend those aren't evidence of cheating is just wild.

And op didn't even spell out the most damming one.

does he have an iphone? if so, you might be able to look at his recently deleted messages… i know you might not wanna go this route or even be able to get his phone again, but it’s an option. either way, i think you decide if you’re able to forgive him or not. if so, go to him and just ask for honesty. tell him you will be mad and hurt but you also are willing to work thru it IFFF he is willing fo be honest and do the work to heal the relationship. if you are not able to forgive him (which i would 100% understand), you should start planning your exit. if you feel you need to do it in secret, then you can “pretend” everything is ok to buy yourself time. start looking for programs that might help single moms or family members that can help, even for a short time. do what is best for you and baby!! and if you do want to leave him, try to get proof of his infidelity

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