Co sleeping 7 month old

Do I have to do the cuddle curl? I’ve just started co sleeping as baby won’t sleep unless with me however sleeping in the cuddle curl has absolutely killed my back

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It’s really important to ensure baby is safe and protected from you rolling x

Yes it’s not safe otherwise

Follow happy cosleeper on Instagram - she has so much ace info on safe sleeping and cosleeping. The cuddle curl is found to naturally relax a little more after 4 months and baby is bigger and stronger but trying to maintain it as much as possible is advised.

but how can you sleep like that? I woke up in so much pain on my back I can sleep on my side with legs bent but it’s the arm above the head I can’t do

Baby is soo long now it’s so hard to c curl round her

Honestly, yes it is recommended but you have to use your own judgement and know your own baby. Like I always have my arm between my LO and the pillow because it’s so close to his head and I wouldn’t want to risk it moving down onto him but I don’t really have my knees under him as he’s so long and I’m confident now he isn’t going to go down. He either rolls away (facing opposite to me to sleep or facing me and even if he’s facing opposite he always looks for me as soon as he’s stirs. sometimes end up on my back too and that pretty normal. No one really stays in the exact fixed position all night every night - even happycosleeper says this

Also l maybe try a different pillow to help with your arm. I had to use a think memory foam side sleep pillow but yeah it’s never going to be the comfiest set up

it does make me ache but I try to alternate sides

i also literally can’t sleep like that, i tried for a few weeks and i was in agony so now im just persisting with trying to get him into his crib

is your mattress firm enough? I was getting terrible hip pain until I flipped it over and now it’s much better sleeping on the firmer side

how do you sleep or do you just get used to it? My LB is only 7M but I know he’s going to be like this when he’s bigger ha!

So i started off, curled around him arm above his head so not to roll on him- as the guidance says. But as soon as he turned about 13 months i became i little more lax as he moves around so much, i now just ensure that he has enough room and i roll onto my otherside- note my bed is a double and we are the only 2 in it! My bf sleeps in the spare room

sorry forgot to tag you!

I put a pillow behind my back lastnight after reading this and it helped a lot I wasn’t achy this morning at all so thank you xx

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In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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I prefer those kimono style buttons where it’s easy to button or too down button with crotch snaps.

Is everyone thinking the same or different? Lol

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Ok, this might get a bit long, and a bit bumpy, so get comfy and buckle up.

So about a week or 2 ago, there was a post on here regarding sleepovers. Not letting their child go to them as you can't trust who'll be at the house etc.

Now, given recent incidents in nurseries and schools, plus my own experience back in the 90s, I am more concerned about sending my child to nursery and later school than I am to a friend's house for a sleep over.

The other day a man was jailed for abusing children at the nursery he worked at. A woman has been arrested for sleeping with an underage boy and then getting pregnant by a different underage boy while on bail for the first offence.

Young girls and boys get sexually harassed and bullied when at school, not all of them. But more than you think. And not just by other kids, but by adults who we as parents are trusting to look after our kids.

A sleepover, is a more controlled environment, with only a handful of people coming into contact with your child. A school, a club etc there can be 100s of people coming into contact with your child.

I was targeted at 7 years old by the owner of a prominent private school. Thankfully, I wasn't SA'd. In year 5 of primary school, I started to develop early, I was harassed by the boys and teachers made remarks about how my uniform didn't fit right, always "adjusting it" around my chest and legs.

Years 7-9 of secondary school were hell. But it was all under the guise of "we're just messing around". A teacher twanging my exposed bra strap (none uniform day) is not "messing around".

Boys pinning me down trying to rip open my shirt to see my breasts.

I fear for my daughter. I hope she takes after my father's family, flat chested.

We need to educate all our children, what is acceptable behaviour. And to come to us, as their parents should ANYTHING happen.