First time I feel my MIL is out of line

For additional information, this is also now financially straining us because of the cars, my husband now can't take time off work because we won't have enough money to cover the car if it's parts that aren't covered by insurance, we have alot of bills to pay. It's mainly us going down to come see them never the other way around and when she does come she's literally only stayed for 3 hours cause church seminars calling, she doesn't want traffic to build up or his brother has homework to catch up on. This is his brother's highschool graduation and yes he's been the only father figure in his life. My husband can't drive it's me as the driver and I'm 8 months high risk these drives are starting to literally take the life out of me now but this is my husband's family and I love him and them enough to push through it, but right now not enough to risk an accident, or financial strain

Of course she is being unreasonable. That's glaringly obvious. You just can't make it, and you're close to giving birth. The drive isn't feasible. I had to tell my grandmother that I won't be able to come 500 miles south for thanksgiving because I'm due in early December and last pregnancy I gave birth a month early and I'm not coming with a newborn and toddler. They never come up here either and we don't have the money to do it and are moving in with my MIL in a couple weeks. So no, your MIL can honestly shut up and understand the world doesn't revolve around her and your BIL. Yeah it'll suck to miss it but it's not worth the risks involved in going! Tell her you can't come and there's no more discussing it.

@Clarissa Okay cause my husband has been feeling alot of guilt but I on the other hand am annoyed about it 1 because this hurts my husband it seems like he's trying to bend over backwards. 2 He did look the train schedules and I was like 100% no someone literally got shot last week at the train stop we have and it's like at 4:30am and she can't even drive him back up here and by 8pm driving 2 days ago a bear got hit and led to a total closure of the hwy. He needs to be at work at 12pm tomorrow like even time wise he wouldn't make it to work and if he misses 2 days he'll be demoted to part time work and we cannot take that hit

3 She missed our wedding I didn't bat an eye, she missed both baby showers I was bummed for my husband but I understood and for her not to extend the same courtesy and to be angry about it I love my BIL but I do agree the OUR family me+husband and kids our world does not revolve around them I know he's the favorite but considering the past and her faith ( we don't share it but we do participate in events in the past) it's just like come on seriously YOUR getting upset f**k out of here with that.

If this continues to drag on to my husband visiting his father on father's day I'm having trouble staying silent and also supporting my husband without letting my own bias' show