ghosted . 😔

How long were you guys talking for?

not long honestly, we met through a game we both play in september last year and we started talking outside the game but just as friends. both of us had developed feelings for the other but neither of us said anything until early november

He probably got spooked not all people feel comfortable talking about having kids. Especially if you both weren’t in the thinking about marriage stage. Not to say you can’t casually mention your family preferences. Having a child also changes things not to be discouraging but he might have also thought about how you do have a kid so he might have thought that if you guys fully committed he would have to step up for that child as a father figure and that too can be scary. Again I’m not trying to discourage or say you were wrong or what not just reasons he may have done that. Try not to let it get to you. He should have at least talked to you versus just cutting you off since that’s also immature it would have hurt more yes but at least he would have been open with you that he wasn’t ready.

the last thing we talked about was his mom. he said she was having medical problems and that she had bleeding on her brain. and he was dealing with a lot. next thing i know, he left the clan that were in and unadded me as a friend, all while never responding to any of my messages. he knew about my daughter and said more than once he wishes she was his. he said being a father is one of his biggest goals, has been since he was 17 and we're both 24.

apparently. i really thought the world of him 😕

You know to me it really feels like then he’s going through a lot. Men process feelings differently especially with the generation we grew up with. It’s changing thank goodness with our children it feels like but he’s going through a lot and a lot of trauma he probably can’t process right away. Maybe his mom suddenly passed away and he grieving. He’s probably grieving with what’s going on with his mom right now still. I’d just give him space he might be distant for a while then unblock you when he’s ready to open up and talk and when he does you need to be patient and understanding with his situation if you still want to pursue a relationship with him if he does.

that's the main thing i think happened unfortunately. he only told me a little about his relationship with his mom and it's not good, but he said he tries with her from time to time. so i guess if she did pass, the fact that he never got to fix things with her (even tho they weren't his fault) is eating at him. but i still don't get why he had to unfriend me on our game. kinda feels like he wants to get rid of me. which if he does, i can live with that i just wish he'd say that. i haven't texted him since i kinda got the message he was ghosting me and i feel like if i do message him im gonna fire off on him so i just don't. it's the possibility of him never reaching back out that scares me