MIL…
Girls… someone… please… I’m gonna lose my mind.
Me and my partner haven’t been in the best place lately and we are working on things, despite his Mum.
Anyway. Without the ins and outs of it all… he said to me the other day his mum has called him just to ‘check in’ and see how we are all doing (she hasn’t seen our toddler since February and has met our newest baby who is 3 months old… once)
I fell out with her because I cba with it all. She doesn’t make effort with the girls at all so I’m not forcing it. That’s on her. Anyway back to the story, why the fuck has she told him that she’s invited all her lot from up north to our babies christening… and he didn’t say anything to her? Baring in mind we haven’t even organised the christening yet we’ve only booked the date! she doesn’t know any of the plans or timings or who we want there. These people she’s invited didn’t come to our firsts baby christening and didn’t even have the decency to message my partner and say ‘sorry we couldn’t make it’ so what makes them think they’re invited to this one? And they’ve never met me or my first child so. This time we wanted a small intimate thing so why has she took it upon herself to do this!!! My partner gets upset with me if I say anything to his mum at all and even when I’ve been polite to her she goes running to him and plays victim. I’m always made to look like the bad one but surely this is taking the piss. Especially as I’ve told my mum to back off.
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If they didn't come to the first odds are they won't come again. I get Mil overstepping boundaries but a community for our children is a good thing. Let all those ppl vow before God to support that baby and you all as you raise em. They'll be the ones to have to answer for their lying wicked ways later. MIL definitely over step 😒 and their sons definitely don't put them in their place. But is this something you want to fight your husband over?
you know what it is, I’ve given my mum hell since I had my first and she gets it now. And I don’t want her to see it all and just think why is the MIL allowed to do whatever? I feel like if I don’t stand my ground on this one now then the MIL will never get the hint and my partner needs to recognise his in a relationship with me and not his mum. So I feel it’s a fight worth having 🙃🤌🏼 I’m very strong on my boundaries and I think this has over stepped totally! She could of had the decency to ask ‘is it ok if I tell people’ instead of assuming our plans 😔
Tell MIL outright that unless the person has an invite they are not invited
oh I 100% agree with you it's an over step. I had a very similar situation, MIL didn't know the difference between my business and hers. It caused so many fights and now divorced not all her but she played a huge part. Just be mindful of the things worth fighting for is all I'm saying. And honestly if that's their dynamic she oversteps and he allows it you won't change it. You'll just drive yourself crazy
If she keeps playing the victim card even when you’re nice….id consider recording all interactions with her going forward just in case. I agree with pia, no invite no attendance!
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