Feeling lonely
Hi everyone.
I just wanted to reach out to mums on here and share my experience to see if anyone is feeling the same.
I am 34, mum to a one year old and I feel very lonely right now. I’m the first of my close friends to have a baby and I don’t think any of them are going to in the future. I am part of a mum group but I feel like they all already have their social networks and somehow know lots of other families. During my baby’s first year, I found it really hard to get out, she had colic, then we moved around a few times, we had almost no support and I was running on fumes. Now I’m back at work and have even less time to make new friends.
I don’t really mind this for myself. But it fills me with sadness for my baby, she’s so social and outgoing and loves other babies. But she has no little friends to grow up with, or cousins. We’re far from family and I just feel like I failed to make a lot of friends during maternity leave. I feel like I failed her and she will be lonely because of me.
I feel so jealous when I see families out together and there’s a few kids and they’re playing. All I can think about is how my baby won’t have that, I’m literally welling up right now, it affects me so much.
I’ve reached out to mums on here but then inevitably things fizzle out due to sleep deprivation, no time etc.
I’ve never had trouble making friends before, and I’ve been content if at times my social life got quiet. I don’t know what to do now though. I just want my baby to be surrounded with people like I was when I was growing up.
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Ive been feeling the same 😭 I was even thinking of writing something like this on here too. I’ve been feeling so incredibly lonely and I only downloaded this app so I could find friends for my son and hopefully for me too. I’ve moved around and got pretty bad anxiety after he was born so I haven’t gotten out much and I haven’t had much help so I can have time to myself. It’s hard meeting people and my son is also so social and happy that I feel bad he hasn’t been able to really interact with other babies his age. I’m trying to do better but I’m also so caught up in my own head and too tired to go out that idk when It’ll change :/ sending hugs fellow mama, you’re not alone 💕
I feel this wholeheartedly right now.
How did you know for sure your baby had colic? how did you help her through it?
Totally understandable. Where are you based in the uk
I am in pretty much the same position. I've tried making mum friends, but life happens and things fizzled out. It'd be good to find local mums so you can meet up, but i know that its hard especially when you're back working! (Ive been back for 4.5 months - my little one is 11 months) I've had a couple of mums I've connected really well with, but trying to meet up was so difficult and I felt like I was more invested in them.
where abouts are you?
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