My mental health with breastfeeding

I’m having a really rough time because of my mother in law and my mother. I really am trying breastfeeding the best I can but this girl can eat and she will be a week old tomorrow. I pump every two hours and I breast feed as much as I can but at nighttime I sometimes had it with breastfeeding cause I’m so dead tired I would rather give her breast milk in a bottle. And sometimes I pump all day and there still isn’t enough left so I substitute formula for my mental health sake. My mom just thinks that’s not right using formula but I’m literally going insane.

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So baby is cluster feeding which is when baby feeds and then 5mins later wants to feed again.
This is the natural way to build your supply every time baby feeds it stimulates the breast to make more milk.

So when your supplementing with formula are you pumping?? Ideally it's advised to not pump too much straight away as it can cause an oversupply I would highly recommend a hakka pop it on the other side to baby feeding or use when feeding baby.

Theirs nothing horrific about formula and a fed baby is best but their are implications on formula when trying to breastfeed .

Have you read up on the 4th trimester also xx

I'm going to share what professionals who are more informed than my mom and MIL are (not to kick old school information, some is useful but some well🤔)

It is 100% ok to combo feed until your breast milk fully comes in. You can 100% give your baby a bottle of breastmilk if you need a break from breastfeeding or need to pump to help increase your supply. A fed baby is a fed baby and how you go about it is ok in the beginning, as long as your child is fed and taken care of. Yes of course breastmilk is way better for a child but you aren't a bad person if you need a break. Breastfeeding isn't easy! After a week I had to only pump and feed my LO a bottle of breastmilk because latching was hard and my nipples hurt so badly. I had to also supplement with 1 or 20z of formula a few nights in the beginning to help keep him full.

My baby is 8 months and he's exclusively breastfeeding — but needing a break and bottle feeding breastmilk is ok.

Sending you hugs and so much love—you got this Mama!

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Feeding to sleep

FTM here! 👋

Are you guys feeding your baby to sleep?

I just read feeding to sleep is creating bad habit and baby will always cry etc when awake at night expecting to get bottle before falling asleep again. 🤔
It said should feed the baby, give a bath (or not) and then put to sleep.
I do other way around - bath, pjs/lotion, rock to sleep and feed at the same time and then baby falling asleep.
Am I creating a bad habit? Been doing it all the time really. 😳

Feeds

How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope