I just can’t stand my MIL

She’s annoying asf to me.. never in 4 years had something good to say to me! I have been living with this lady for 4 years because we can’t afford to move out on our own bc how messed up the economy is.. a studio where I live is almost 2k! But DAMN.. I am so sick of my MIL. I know she loves my kid but every day she’s on top of her “have you ate” “what did you eat today” like stfu lady she thinks I can’t properly feed my child?? Can’t even cook here cause if it’s not her cooking she criticizes everyone cooking which makes me not want to touch that damn stove! Does anybody have a MIL like this? There’s time I catch attitude with her cause she’s so top of my kid.. but I don’t disrespect her cause she’s my child grandmother and loves her! But damn can you imagine living with someone who just complains and criticizes? One time my sister came over and she complimented her and whenever I get dolled up.. it’s SILENCE or whenever she see an error on my outfit.. let’s say my dress is not pulled all the way, she’s like “your dress is supposed to be like that?” Like obviously not like a nice MIL you can help fix it! My man is always taking her side and says I’m annoying for complaining so much but mf you annoying too cause you still got me in this damn house!

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Best thing you can do it take advantage of the fact that you live with her now, save money and hustle to both find jobs or better jobs or whatever you can do to move out so yall can actually have healthy distance and a better relationship. Even if she’s the most annoying person ever it is still a huge blessing that you have someone who can offer yall that. I would be checking out trailer homes and subsidized housing or whatever it takes to have your own space

I’m looking for a job pregnant and all even though I’m due December because I just can’t imagine having to bring another child in here.. omg it’s a fear of mine right now but thank you so much I know if we move out our relationship would be better since we would have our own privacy and space! I would look into subsidized homes, honestly didn’t even know that was a thing

there’s nothing better than having your own peace and privacy. I tell everyone who has their own place to enjoy it to the fullest, living with other people is hard

I’m not sure where you live but in the US they are definitely a thing! Might also have a leg up on securing a place with being pregnant. Good luck! Everything will feel so much better when you have your own space

yes I live in Miami , Florida it’s so bad here, even in the hood it’s expensive, we can’t find nothing for less than $2k it sucks! Hopefully we can save up enough money to move out somewhere decent before my due date but thanks sm!

I live in the US😭

but if you have advice outside of UK I’ll be glad to take it !

Girl that’s my grandparents. (I’m a single mom) I once had 3 jobs was taking 24 credits (which was basically full time student x 2) and it still wasn’t good enough for them.

See her only at Christmas n thanksgiving reminisce on the good times y’all had
And traits her boy has

in our community

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅