UC: Work focused interview

Hi, I have 20 month old and this appointment to attend today. I work 2 days a week anyway. Can anyone please explain to me what to expect from this appointment ? Thanks!

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They normally just ask how things are are you looking for work to up hours what you’re situation is that type of thing x

And if I say I am not? In fact I work 2 days when my daughter stays with her dad and I am not planning to put her in nursery yet/ nor when she'll be 2. Planning nursery for when she's 3 and keep coping same way as until now. What will they say? Any idea?

Tbh I’m not sure cause I’ve been looking for work and planning to put my little boy in nursery from September when he can have the 15 hours x

Okay, thank you for your reply :)

I think they decide a number of hours you should be working when your child is 2, and if you're not already working that number of hours they expect you to be looking for work to make it up to that number of hours. To be honest from my experience with my older ones, they don't care whether or not you intend to have your child in nursery. If they think you should be working more, they won't pay you (will sanction you) unless you take steps to be working what they say you should be x

I work 2 days a week but only works out 38 hours a month, I have a 17 month old. I have to attend these every 6 months but the lady that I see has said I’m doing more than enough by working at all and that they won’t expect me to be looking at working more hours until he starts school. It’s basically just to check in and make sure there’s no changes. I had to go in the job centre the first couple of times and it’s now just a phone call. Hope this helps x

Hi everyone, thank you for your kind replies ☺️ it was really a quick one, I said what I do already, lady agreed it's a good setting I have in place, I said I plan to continue same way until she's 3 and without the nursery, she said of course, my arrangements are working fine so far so all good I guess, I don't know why I was nervous lol, I just hate this type of "interviews" and not sure why but as I was walking out the building I've received a message about another "interview" in November 🤦🏼‍♀️ not sure why as we both agreed nothing is changing for me for a good while ahead lol

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