Do men regret leaving you pregnant?

If he left you pregnant, you shouldnt want him back. Hes for the trash 🗑️

i know! i’ll never take him back. but after - do you think they ever want anything to do with their child? i can’t comprehend how they can be so heartless

Mine didn’t change. He actually got worse when my daughter was born. Let him go. If he truly changes give it time and maybe give him a chance to build a relationship with your child and/or you when you are ready.

My bd did it to me twice and I told him I wasn’t going to take him back! If he truly loved you he wouldn’t have taken his mom’s side he would have defended you!!

got worse in what way?

that’s true. his mom is very overpowering but that’s no excuse to throw me to the wolves while carrying his child. do your BD have love for their kids even tho they’re trash?

i don’t want him back but i wana know if he’ll ever have love for his daughter

In my experience…. No. I was 7 months pregnant when my bd told me he had someone else coming to his place that night. I was devastated. I did keep him updated on appointments and let him know about our daughter. When I went in to have her, I asked him to come. He didn’t because he wanted his girlfriend to come and I told him no. I needed support not stress. I tried for a year to let him be a part of our daughter’s life. I kept him updated on appointments, milestones, etc. During her first year of life, he had 3 separate girlfriends who he wanted to have meet our daughter within a week. I told him no because she didn’t need people in and out of her life. I told him if it became long term, we could talk about it. Every time he and a girlfriend split up, he’d want to be around because he wanted me to help him with something or acted like he wanted to see our daughter. During his relationships, he never did. So, we’re talking 3-4 months without seeing her. (Part 1)

Finally, the night before her birthday he told me he’d be up that morning to help set things up and spent time before her party. Day of her birthday, I don’t hear from him until 3:30 pm. He said he was showering and would be on his way. We live an hour apart. I told him no, because by the time he got there, her party would be over, I’d have her down for bed, and I just didn’t want to entertain anymore that day. He threatened to take me to court, I told him to go ahead. He said he’d message me in a few days and I told him no, at this point it could go through an attorney. I didn’t hear from him for 4 months. He messaged wanting to “talk” about our daughter and where my head was at and if I had planned on doing it alone. I didn’t respond. I’ve been doing it alone for over a year. Found out a few days later, he and his girlfriend had broken up. It was a pattern. I’d rather my daughter have an absent father than an inconsistent one. And we’re better and happier without him around. (Part 2)

@Zella he sounds like he’s just so selfish and childish, men have CHILDREN and they’re still chasing women and being users.. like bro you have kids to look after ??? tf. your babydaddy needs to grow tf up and get his priorities straight. it’s sad cos women can’t just choose to walk away and live it up but men can do whatever they want 😔😔

@Alina i doubt it too 😭

@Ciera they are heartless asf

The saddest part is he has a child from his previous marriage and he has him full time currently as they are going through a custody battle and that’s a mess. If his ex-wife hasn’t ran off out of state with the kid, he wouldn’t have him but that’s what happened and he only went after custody because his mom and brother paid for all his attorney fees. She passed (great lady - I loved her. Even gave my daughter her middle name.) She’d be ashamed of him. But he has alienated his family after her passing and they don’t speak. His brother and father didn’t even know I’d had the baby until I reach out when she was 5 months old. It’s sad she doesn’t know that part of her family. But yeah, I realized the last time I let him come see her that he was only doing it because he didn’t want to adult and wanted me to help him with stuff. I decided not to be a doormat and he didn’t like it.

@Wendi she doesn’t have to put him on the birth certificate regardless and in some states that doesn’t even matter. They still want a paternity test. My bd isn’t on my daughter’s birth certificate, I’ve not filed for child support (I probably will once she starts pre-k). I’m establishing a long history of him not being around or involved.

@Wendi the state I’m in, a paternity test for child support doesn’t give legal right nor does being on the birth certificate unless they are married. The father still has to file for rights here.

Yes. I am about to be a FTM. I’ve been knowing the father of my child for 14 years..When he found out I was pregnant he wanted me to get an abortion but I chose not to. I am 20 weeks and only seen him once. He doesn’t call or text me. I finally had the strength to put my selfishness to the side and told him the due date and the gender a couple of days ago but he didn’t respond…I’ve accepted that it’s just gonna be me and baby girl. I can’t force a man to do anything he doesn’t want to do. Men are trash…makes me feel so embarrassed at myself when I look at other moms with support and love while I’m alone. It’s so painful but I can’t give up on my baby. You’re not alone, We’re all In this together babe 🙏🏾🫶🏾

@Virginia same here I feel like ppl look at me like wondering who’s the dad since I’m doing everything alone or just seeing women w the help of the dad makes me feel so ashamed but at the same time I’m already in love w my daughter and she is such a blessing .

@Alina I absolutely understand how you feel…When people ask me about the Dad I literally break on the inside but at the end of the day I know we can get through It. I try to stop beating myself up so much because I’m only human…Yes, It’s lonely but I believe that It will get better. I started buying little stuff here and there to make me feel better and when I start to feel her kick It makes me feel like It’s bonding time so I’ll take a hot shower, rub my belly with oil and just talk with baby girl. We’re got this love!

Man always feel regret but they never express due to their ego

Mine is trying to fix what he broke but how do you forgive a man for leaving you while pregnant with his child? Idk. I don’t think anyone knows.. it’s the hardest thing I’ve had to be faced with and I’m 2 months PP, he’s a great dad and I still love him but I’m not sure I can forgive him for leaving me when I needed him most but now I need him more? It’s tough and complicated, someone recently told me not to self jeopardise this relationship now because I deserve it and deserve the help etc I’m so tworn if I should trust again or just co parent with him 😞

@Bernadette yeah i know exactly what you mean. you feel so betrayed but your own little happy family is everything you’ve ever wanted. i feel that

Let me tell you right now he got so much worse when my son was born. To threatening to kidnap my son, to only seeing him for 10 minutes just for the “picture” taken and I haven’t heard or seen him since and that was when my son was 3 weeks old. He is now 7 months. He was horrible the last couple months of our relationship, he became an alcoholic became super abusive, and stuck to the same path. He said he’d change that when my son was born but that part got worse. He just signed his rights away through a sent it letter to court, didn’t even bother showing up in person. Just sent a letter saying nope I’ll pass. (Mind you he is now in jail for 3 years because some other reasons) but yeah no if they are willing to leave you when you are most dependent on them, the absolutely don’t deserve your love or time ever again.

We broke up due to police r and his abuse and he only wanted to talk if I gave him money I refused we argued he gave out my personal details I’ve taken him court to get non molestation order