Bullying - fat mom jokes

I had a conversation with my 10 year old yesterday. She shared with me that some boys at school in 3 grade had made fun of her for having a fat mom. Her supposed friend also made a similar comment. I honestly can’t ever recall a time where I heard of kids making fun of other parents to someone’s face. I may be naive but one would think in this body accepting world that this wouldn’t happen.

Anyone have similar stories, how did you handle them?

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If you have any of the parents number i’d call them and tell them directly how their kid is acting

I should have added more context, the events occurred 1-2 years ago that she told me about yesterday. Hashing it now wouldn’t do much unfortunately:(

damn :/ if it happened that long ago i would just tell her some people lack kindness. not much else to do i think 🥲

I m very sorry you and your daughter had to hear that body shaming. I would have said the same as Sarah but if it happened long time ago, I would probably focus more on her feelings. How did she feels on that moment? If she felt angry at them ? Or at you ?(Wouldn't be reasonable to be upset at you, but we are humans and sometimes our feelings are very irrational and that's ok). Show your daughter you can have the talk without taking it personal.
Body shaming is AWFUL. I m so sorry

Tbh in third grade, this type of behavior is not uncommon.

when I was a teacher i noticed from late second grade and on that the bullying skyrocketed.

I told her not to let her bother it. It’s not any fault of her own and that those were unimaginative cheap shots from a low IQ brain.

I’m so sorry this happened. Both for you and for your daughter. Unfortunately, people are going to say mean things in this world. I think I would focus on setting an example for your daughter - ask her how that made her feel, and tell her that it is not ok to comment on other people’s bodies and that although other people might do that this is not something that is done in your family. Show her that you love yourself and your body, and have your husband complement you in front of her.

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️