4 months pp and still not had sex

I had this experience in my first labour. I had an episiotomy, 2nd degree tear and a tear in my cervix. I was petrified to have a poo tbh but that wasn't a sustainable fear lol. I didn't manage to have sex till 6 months PP and I had to use Lube. It was a little bit of an 😬 moment but short-lived. When you manage once you'll realise there wasn't much to worry about. But give yourself time, your lady bits went through hell.

I was in exactly the same situation. It's going to sound bad, but just push yourself to do it. The thought is worse than the act itself. The first time won't be as good as you remember it to be, second will be better and eventually it's all back to normal.