I'm so not meant to be a mother.

It sounds to me like your partner is the problem. He shouldn't be saying that, so I'd rethink your relationship. As for houses, they should be "yes" spaces. Everything put away / out of reach, so they know when you tell them "no", you're serious. You can't just be saying "no" to them all day, it's not healthy for their learning. When you move out and get your own place, make it a "yes" space.

I feel like this often, my kids are 12 13 and 15, I love them and they are my reason to exist, but they are also complete Ah**es lol. I agree with Natalie, your husband is absolutely the problem here.

kids are gonna test you, push boundaries, challenge you, sometimes just for the fun of it. its exhausting and sometimes makes me question whether I should have had kids but im very fortunate to have a supportive partner. yours should be doing the same

This could be true or you just need to work on discipline. You can't let them control things. You are the mother u decide how their day will go. Your husband needs to fully support you or he needs to get out. This isn't everyone gang up on mom. This is we want a pleasant life and we need to work together to keep everyone happy. Happy spouse happy house.

If anything he should be reinforcing things u say to ur kids. my son father does that n tell him to listen to ur mother he shouldn’t be telling u u shouldn’t be a mother .that’s just wrong n evil he sounds crazy.

Oh sweetie, dont think that! You are awesome and it sounds like you may need a neutral 3rd party like a counselor to help you with some strategies and techniques for better communication & discipline. Im so sorry you are feeling so down on yourself, dont give up and hang in there, we are here for you as a community

Oh dear, give yourself a break. Mom is hard work. We all make mistakes and we cry sometimes. Calm down, you are strong and you doing amazing! Don't ever listen any bad words coming to your way... They behave like this because you are safe place for your kids, they can relax and don't think to much.. When you want to yell try counting before speaking.. Close your eyes and breathe.. You are goo mom ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Honey. As a preschool teacher and mom, that’s COMPLETELY NORMAL!! They are meant to push boundaries, fight back, tell mom no, defy you constently! And that’s developmentally age appropriate! Meaning they are supposed to be doing all that between 18 months and 5 years old. They’re your average child! For the record kids are ALWAYS the worst for their mothers! Because you are the one they spend 24/7 with. You get no breaks, they get no breaks from you , so of course they’re gonna laugh at you when you tell them no, of course they’re gonna test you. It’s what they’re supposed to do at this age! Babes I’m sorry but your husband is the problem. If he’s telling you you’re a bad mom get rid of that man. He will be absolutely no help to you in your life or your kids life. Do not let him gaslight you into thinking you are not worthy of being a mother. A great mother! You are their mother. You were always meant to be there mother! You are a great and worthy mother!