One and done… or not?

Do you want another? If you do, forget the pressure and just do it when YOU are ready. And if you don’t - also forget the pressure because it really doesn’t matter what people think. I’m one and done (also no village, can’t think of going through that again) and people always have sooo much to say about that, but really, are they coming over to help at night when your baby is a newborn? No! so they need to mind their own business 😅

I have a 9 year gap and an almost 4 year gap with my kids - ideally I'd have had #3 a year earlier but omg would not have gone closer together than that and I have mum, dad and mil just round the corner from us regularly helping out!

Do what is best for YOU

Even when you're sure you don't want another, people will still say things like that and make you feel like you should despite yourself. But it's not a reason to have a baby. The last thing you want is your baby growing up feeling unwanted or resented because it was conceived because of social pressures...

I had my 1st a month before I turned 35. I just turned 36 in January. I have no idea if I want another one or not. My husband deploys in like 18 months so we said when he’s back from that, we’ll decide. I don’t want to be a solo parent with a toddler and pregnant, have him miss the birth or pregnancy. Don’t feel pressured by anyone. They’re not with you 24/7 if they convince you to have another.

Do what you feel your family is ready for. No one has been there for yall other than your little family. People will always talk and project their insecurities. Others just like talking 💩. I always think of a quote from Don Quixote, "let the dogs bark it's a sign that we are passing by." Good luck!!

I have a 13 month gap between my first 2 and I'm now pregnant with my 3rd (4 year gap). My husband wanted the first 2 close together and I was fine with that (bare in mind HE had to do the night times cause of my epilepsy!). He would've had the 3rd straight away to, but I need the break for my body!
We both would've preferred the 3rd to be a year earlier but it took a lot longer to get pregnant. We are lucky and also have family support pretty close.
It's much harder in your situation. You just have to do what feels right for you, don't be hard on yourself if your not quite ready, it's a lot to go through! 🩷