Baby boy question

To circumcise or not? My Husband and I don’t know what to do. I know this is a sensitive topic but I just need some advice. I lean towards yes and my husband is leaning towards no because he thinks it’s a weird practice (he is circumcised). Any advice for this new boy mama?

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We decided to get our baby circumcised ~7-10 days after birth. From what we’ve read, it may help to reduce infections, and we’d rather it be done when he has no recollection of it. It’s definitely a personal decision, so keep talking about it & ask your pediatrician, too.🩵

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I personally wouldn’t. It’s an unnecessary procedure in my opinion and any reason for circumcising your child can be counteracted with a reason not to that debunks it. Especially the infections/cleaning etc

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My first due in 2 month and it’s a boy! I personally don’t want to as I think it is purely cosmetic but would have no problem if he chose to later but figured leave it up to him unless medically necessary.

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It is a weird practice indeed and unnecessary. Can you imagine cutting off a baby girls inner labia just because it reduces the chance of yeast infection by like, a tiny bit?? No. That’s bonkers.

If a kiddo needs surgery for legit medical reasons, by all means, they can get it! But there is no need I can see to just go chopping a babies perfectly good genitals just because “other people did it” or “it happened to my husband”

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None of my boys are circumcised… hygiene is simple

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In Dominican Republic they don’t do that and all the babies turn out fine let your son make that decision for himself when he gets older

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My personal opinion is a strong no. However, regarding how to make a decision my motto is always if in doubt, don’t do it.

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So I have a son he’s 11 and I did circumcise him didn’t cry yes but I’ve been around a lot of boys cousins brothers who didn’t and stay getting an infection and who all complained of it smelled really bad and etc and my brother and mom used to always argue of why his wasn’t and how girls made fun of him because of it and I just had another baby boy and this time I’ll leave that up to his father because it has nothing to do with me making a decision for him but my brother said he wished my mom did it why he was a baby as well . Make the decision best for you and your son . And your husband you guys and both agree . And then explain to your son why you guys chose not to get him circumcised

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I know it seems really far off into the future - but a reason my sister decided to circumcise her son is because when old men are in nursing homes and care facilities - it is so common to get infections from not being cleaned/cared for properly.

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We moved to California from the UK and being circumcised was something I’d never heard of until we moved here. We won’t be having baby boy circumcised but my husband will need to take the lead on hygiene and teaching him proper hygiene as he grows up too

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I’m in same boat. I never heard of it until my birth plan questions list asking. I was shocked and unaware of it.

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We did because my doctor said he’s never had a patient with a cancer or any problems with a circumcised vs non.
Also to get it done later in life would be so difficult I think! I couldn’t imagine.
Also, girls are sooo mean, speaking as one who would bully (not proud) someone’s 🍆 pic for not being circumcised.
Since adulthood I have dated 2 people with non circumcised penises and I can say one of them didn’t know how to clean it or didn’t care and it was disgusting….. so because of my experiences I made the decision. It was hard to listen too. But baby screams are because he’s strapped down not because of the pain.
Healing was super easy no issues for me.

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Both my OB and midwives in two different pregnancies/hospitals have handed out info sheets on how there’s no medical recommendation to perform them and they’re cosmetic only. They’ll still do them if requested, but we had no desire to anyway. I honestly thought all practitioners handed that info out.

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I was pretty set on it with my son as my husband is. We had a home birth and after he was here it was the last thing I could imagine doing so we didn’t. I am happy we didnt as I wouldnt have wanted to take him in for that and something less to worry about 🤷‍♀️ I was worried about being the “odd one out” but seems alot more common to not now.

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I work in the hospital and many male patients come in and have infections, I promise you the amount of the times we pushed back the ‘skin’ and found the nastiest and dirtiest things/tiny objects in there🥲🥲 Yes you can teach boys to clean it but removing that skin helps decrease the risks of infection. I will definitely be circumcising my boys

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I have two boys that are and are fine, my next one is a boy and will circumcise.

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My husband wasn’t circumcised . We just had a mutual feeling that we wouldn’t do the same to our boy. I’m pregnant with another boy due in December and he won’t be circumcised either.

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We circumcized. I didn't know what to do either. I don't have a penis. My partner wouldn't give much input. So I went with it as he is circumcized and thought it would be easier forming out trained if they were the same.

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