Is it weird to pass my angel baby's middle name to my rainbow baby?

I need honest opinions is it weird to give my rainbow baby the same middle name as my daughter who passed away? Earlier this year I had a late miscarriage at 17 weeks and am now 15 weeks pregnant and I wanted to pass my angel baby's Eden Grace's Middle name to this baby, Julia Grace. My husband thinks it's kind of weird and my daughter is going to grow up feeling like a repeat or a replacement for my baby who passed if I give her the same Middle name. I personally think it's more of an honorary gesture and if we raise her with that understanding and not that its a replacement she won't grow up feeling that way but i can see where he's coming from and want to make sure it's not just me still in grief.

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I am also planning to use my angel babies middle name on my next baby as their primary name! It’s such an honor. Maybe I’ll feel different in a year but I don’t think so.

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I’m using the same middle name for my Rainbow. It’s not a replacement, it’s an honor and a connection between siblings who don’t get to grow up together 💕

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No!! We named our son after his brother who we lost at 39 weeks! He carries his first name as his middle name!

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Do what ever feels right for you 🥰♥️

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I used my angel baby's name for my rainbow baby. Many years later. I lost a little girl named Olivia Grace.. & my 21m LO is Livia Sage. & my 8m LO is Amelia Grace 👑 🙌 ♥️

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Not at all, I think that is precious🥰

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Are you feeling ok as you get to the 17 wrk mark? I lost my son at 20 weeks and I’m almost 19 weeks and this has been a scary time for me! Praying for a continued smooth pregnancy and a happy healthy Julia Grace!

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I think it's a lovely thing to do and very honorary.

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No ma'am not at all......my rainbow son has his brothers 1st name as his middle name ❤️💯♥️👍🏾👌🏾💪🏾

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How are you feeling though??

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Personally I think not to use it as why cause an issue when you can avoid it.

Honorary maybe but it depends on how the baby feels when they grow up.
She will be remembered and so will the other baby and it’s all together and while it might be sweet but it might also not be.

Don’t you want to remember your angel baby as angel baby and not deal with angst if it occurs that the baby’s sister doesn’t like the association.


Sorry if I am crossing any boundaries or saying too much but that’s how I personally feel. Rest is upto you dear. Lots of love and wish you good health❤️

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I think it's a lovely idea and honoring and providing a connection to siblings!
I'm also thinking to do this, especially if we have a boy for our rainbow as we only agreed on 1 name in the first place! 🫣🤷🏽‍♀️

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I'm so sorry for everything you have gone through and also congratulations on your current pregnancy! It's a jumble of emotions isn't it 🩷

For a while, we were thinking of doing the same but we personally decided against it. For me, as much as it hurts me, I know my living child will not mourn my firstborn like we all do. My daughter, as she grows older, will understand the pain her parents experienced, but won't experience that exact pain herself (I hope). I am going to be careful with how I talk about my son to her - "We had a baby who is in heaven, we love and miss him so much. Would you like to hear about him?"

That being said, we name babies after grandparents or passed relatives all the time! The name you choose for your baby is the right name for them and your family. We decided against it, as it wasn't right for our family and how we want to approach it, but that does not mean its not right for your family. We all grieve and honour our babies in our own ways.

Sending love xx

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Uh no.. that’s actually very beautiful🥺

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I'm going to use my angel baby's first name as my rainbow baby's middle name. I never want my rainbow baby to forget they had an older sibling ❤️

This is partially because my husband's mother had a stillbirth and they never told their kids the name until my own stillbirth. And it turns out the name we chose for our angel baby was the same name as my husband's brother who passed. I personally would always want to know if i had a sibling somewhere.

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I think it's a beautiful idea x

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There are parents that repeat middle names with their children, so I don't see why not with rainbow babies.

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I think it's a sweet tribute ❤️

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I didn’t use my angel babies name, but I did keep the first letter of the first name. My angel babies name is Amelia Clare and my rainbow babies name is Avalee Katelynn Grace.

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