Non-mum friends not understanding

I’m the first out of my friends to have a baby, and I’m finding it so difficult to talk about how I feel/the difficulties of early motherhood when they just don’t understand and give such crap advise. It’s not their fault, and i get that, because how are they to understand if they’ve never experienced it, but it’s so frustrating to try and talk about how you feel and be met with such out of touch replies. Grateful for all your lovely ladies on here who do understand, I am loving motherhood but it can get quite lonely and I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels like this 🤍

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If you're feeling lonely there's an October mums WhatsApp chat, I can see about getting you added? It's full of mums all different walks of life just supporting each other, no question is too daft 💖

please could I be added to this? 🫶🏼 x

Yep 100%. I barely talk to anyone without kids 🤣🤣🤣 Just can't stand it. Life is so different for us so nothing in common anymore sadly. I just talk to friends who got kids and made new friends here on Peanut 🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️

I think that’s what I’m finding so sad though, i love my friends,
Many of them we’ve been close friends for 10+ years and it’s so sad to no longer feel close to them or that they can understand me and my life.

It is sad indeed but what can we do? My sister is now like a stranger to me. It feels like there is a deep trench between the 2 of us as her life without children is extremely different than mine 🥴

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Hey laddies. I’m 27 year olds I’m a mom of 2 girls. I’m currently 3 months pregnant. I want to make some new friends I get bored I realize I don’t have any more friends. I stay in Tennessee. Also I’m a Virgo. Let’s be friends 🥰

Lost friends since being a mum

Good morning! Can anyone relate to this!

My two friends and me have always been close since our early teens. I’m the first to have a baby.

One friend has big house, career and boyfriend

Other out of a long term relationship and being single having fun etc

Before baby we would all hang at my
Apartment, chat eat and just have
Fun.

Now I don’t even get a text to ask how my baby is, how I am. I really thought they would be awesome aunties. But honestly they don’t care.

They meet up a lot to do cool things, which I can’t be upset about as I can’t as I have my baby.

I don’t know I feel sad about it.

Am I over reacting?

Feeling stupid

I got drunk last night and had unprotected sex he didn’t cum in me but I’m ovulating
And having pain and I’m freaking out

Can I take morning after pill when already ovulating/ ovulated
And is there any safe for breastfeeding

31 weeks pregnant and lonely

How to deal with loneliness in pregnancy when your boyfriend goes out with his friends drinking 😅🥲 I only have three friends, two are never really free and one lives back in Liverpool and has her own set of friends where she goes to raves and goes on holiday with them lol. My boyfriend is going out soon for the night as it’s sunny and I’ll just be sat here crying like every single time! When does it stop 🤣

Running mums!

Any other runners on here? Would love to connect ☺️

Has anyone else had issues with their friends that aren't pregnant or have kids?

I have a friend at work and we've become really close over the years. But ever since I become pregnant she just doesn't understand anything I'm going through which is fine except for the fact that the past few days I have been exhausted physically and socially. We have been helping another friend out for about a month now and we've had to keep him entertained as he's going through a rough time right now and it's drained me socially . my friend at work is frustrated because I'm not talking a lot and I'm exhausted and she doesn't understand why and I'm just curious if anybody else has had issues with friends that are not going to the same thing or have gone through the same thing as you connecting with you because she's literally mad at me. She stopped talking to me at work today and I just don't understand what to do.