Crying 😢

Just found out in one day that 3 of my best mates are pregnant. They’ve all kept it from me as they no I’m trying for our second. But I’ve honestly just drove home crying my eyes out. I’ve been trying since April and absolutely nothing is happening. I feel like such a shit friend because I feel more jealous than happy for them but I am happy for them deep down. There’s nothing more that I want than to be pregnant and give our little girl a brother or sister.
Just feel like utter shit. Proper down and depressed about it ( I know people have been trying for much longer) but the feeling of wanting it so bad don’t change.

Rant over sorry 😔 🖤😢

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I know this feeling well and I just want to say, your feelings are 100% valid. It feels so unfair when the only thing you want in the whole world is gifted to others so much more easily. 😢 Also, two things can be true at the same time. You can be happy for your friends and absolutely devastated for yourself. Sending you big hugs, love and baby dust. ❤️❤️

I know how you feel lovely. 2
Of my close friends are pregnant with baby no 2 and baby no 3.
I’m super happy for them but I’m also struggling really badly with jealousy and it’s upsetting and breaks me. I have random crying outbursts and feel so snappy sometimes when we speak about the pregnancies etc as
I can’t help but wish it was me.
Your not alone lovely and it’s totally
Normal to feel like you do even though your happy for your friends. It will happen forgot. We’ve been trying since June and it’s rubbish 😭 always here xx

I understand this very well as had a long journey to conceive my son. I would say tap into gratitude and focus on all you have to help you feels less unhappy. The beauty of TTC baby no.2 is you’ve already been blessed with a child and it can happen again maybe not on your timeline but that’s ok and you never know it could work out better than you ever imagined.

I completely understand how you feel and your feelings are completely valid, it's okay to let it all out 🫂

thank you hun! I’m doing everything I can to get pregnant xxx

wishing you all the best 🫂💞

Hey I’m really sorry you are going through this I have a friend who’s been trying for 15 months and I see how upset she gets, do you have regular periods and test for ovulation? It may be worth trying Maca root and inositol if you aren’t already. They are natural and can help with ovulation x

This is me right now 2 of my best friends have just done the same and I feel exactly the same!

it’s actually horrible isn’t it. Like the butter feeling xxx

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