Do you use curse words in front of your kid(s)?

I curse quite a bit, my husband does, but not in front of our daughter. She’s 13 now, but I’ve always cursed in front of her. My husband thinks I shouldn’t, but when I tried to stop, I failed miserably, and I eventually didn’t care enough to try and stop. So instead, I figured I’d be the one to teach her about them. After all, sometimes things are more enticing when they’re off limits.

When she said her first curse word, she knew it was a “bad word”. And that’s where the conversation started. I ask her what she thinks it means, and explain all aspects of the word. Then talk about how it can be used in a casual way, and how it can be used in a disrespectful, mean, or aggressive way.

She understands that most people don’t like to hear kids saying those things, and where it’s appropriate to use to those words (with us) and where it’s not (like her very Christian grandma’s house, or school).

In the end, she curses sometimes - like once a month, and she’ll ask permission to curse too which always makes me smile. I’m ok with it. I’d rather she learn about these words from me, instead of some kid at school.

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I'm not a cursing type my mother grew up over sees and was very strict and had an English accent since she learned English internationally so I find myself slipping back into my childhood accent with my children especially when they've been particularly naughty they push me into stern proper mom mode and it's all my mother's fault lol 🤣🤣🤣

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i’m so bad at swearing, and my 3 year old has picked up the phrase “fuck sake” and says it in context too 😭😭 but he knows it’s a bad word, and will tell me “don’t say fuck sake mummy, it’s a bad word” and it’s so sweet. i, as a parent, have always said i won’t be strict at my kid swearing. kids are gonna swear whether it’s in front of you or behind your back, and my main goal (like yourself) is to teach them a time and a place. like i’ve reiterated to my toddler so many times that we absolutely cannot say that at nursery🤣 but my mum swore all the time in front of me growing up, and one time when i was like 3 or 4 i repeated a swear word and she put mustard powder in my mouth 😬 she’s a biiiig hypocrite lol, like she was unhappy when i fell pregnant at 20 (with my partner who ive been with since 16) even though she had me at 18, and was with my dad for barely five minutes and split before my first birthday lol. i’m creating a safe space for my kids that i never had 🩷

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omg my mum washed my mouth out with soap when I was little, I have no idea what I said and she can’t remember either! 😂My 3yo was running around saying “doing my fucking head in!” yesterday! 🫣 I’m normally good at not swearing in front of them but sometimes I let it slip when I’m extra tired and overstimulated. I try not to react when she repeats something but my husband did and then she knows she shouldn’t say it and it becomes a game for her! 🙈

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I swear a lot when talking to adults, for a while I wasn’t fussed but my son with a speech delay is starting to pick up words and it would be bloody awful if one of his new ones was a swear 😂 he’s picked up “oi” from somewhere and that is bad enough lol

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I remember swearing as a child and getting into trouble, my sister slapped me, so I called her a slapper, makes sense right😂🤷🏻‍♀️

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We both curse sometimes but we try to keep it to a minimum when kiddo is around (he’s 4 and repeats everything) but when the day comes that he tries to use them we will tell him those are for the bathroom until he gets old enough to understand the weight of the words he’s using

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It slips sometimes but I really try not too

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I've had a Freudian slip a time or ten, my kids will scream Ahhhhhhhhhh and I apologise.

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I think There is a huge difference between been cursed around and cursed at. My toddler knows swear words ( happily calls the neighbour a dickhead 🙃) she knows not to do it in nursery/ outside the garden 😅

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my bf and i both curse all the time, trying to cut back cause our 2yo has picked up a few things💀 i tell her those words are for grownups, but im not too bothered about her hearing it. it’s just words imo

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No. I don’t want to normalize it for them I don’t like cursing myself as an adult since I don’t find it necessary and think that I sound much better not doing it . My communication is more effective without it. For me it’s not a positive thing that my children need to do and their dad and I are on the same page with this. I didn’t personally grow up in an environment where my parents cursed a lot and neither did my husband and so it’s not something that we’d think is the norm or what we need to be doing etc . If we slip every now and then okay but to just be cursing lackadaisically in front of our little ones like it’s just the thing to do .. no it’s definitely not not for us Anyhow in our home we strive to lead by example to model the kind of behavior that we’d like to see displayed in our children and cursing ain’t it 🫠

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Me and my husband have tried to come up with alternative words for the main swears that we use. I'd say it works 50% of the time. We came up with 'jeff' for F and 'shmike' for sht 🤣

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