Am I being unreasonable?

35 weeks pregnant and my sister in law and mother in law have not been bothered about this baby at all. They've not once asked about baby how he is or how I am even though this is a high risk pregnancy which has resulted me in having several scans, babies dropped weight, gestational diabetes ect ect. All the information they know is me bringing the information to them. This will be grandchild number 6. Every other grandchild my mother in law has made a big purchase for (they are not short of money currently flying first class to the Caribbean as I type this) and even my first child they bought his cot but this one they have not asked if we need anything or offered to buy anything at all. I know the other 4 grandkids she bought there prams. I feel like it woudlnt need to be a high value gift even if they had picked up something small. They turned up to my baby shower literally empty handed, which I know it isn't required to bring something but even my friend in huge debt got the baby a little toy which I was extremely grateful for. My partner can see it but he doesn't want to confront them and cause a huge row. I'm at the point now where when the babies born and they want cuddles I'm going to say no. If you've not been bothered to ask a single thing about this pregnancy then you don't get the good bits. My partner seems to think it's because it's number 6 they are just not as excited anymore because they've done it 5 times before. This doesn't feel fair on this new baby at all. I also feel really weird they have decided to take a 3 week holiday right by my due date when it has been discussed bringing my baby early, my mum won't even leave the city at the moment thinking we might need her. My mum's over the moon still even though she has other grandkids. Feeling very down.

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I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. But your partner should probably sit down with his parents and discuss this. Because if they already are treating this grandchild differently what’s it going to be like for him/her growing up in an environment where he/she is feeling left out or excluded etc.

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My mum is the same she doesn't hardly contact me at all I'm lucky if I get a message every two weeks , so I have said to my husband if she wants to see her granddaughter she does it on our terms because she's also acting entitled saying she wants to visit her as soon as the baby is born when I have told everyone I want at least a week before they visit she thought she would have special privileges just because she's my mum. If she doesn't make the effort it's her loss

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My mother in law on the other hand is total opposite

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

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Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.

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Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

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Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

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Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️

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Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

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