You had the name chosen since before you met this friend. You're not stealing the name from her as she has already used it. you just coincidentally both chose the same name. I'm sure if you explain the fact that you had this name picked out ages ago and the family connection to it she wouldn't have an issue :) 🥰 I wouldn't have any issue if my friend picked the name one of my existing children had. I think it would actually be kinda cute! X
If it’s someone close than it’s odd naming babies the same name but if you see each not to often it does not matter
I was in that position. Had a name picked nobody knew about. A friend gave birth and coincidentally gave her baby our name. My husband and I have decided to pick another name as we didn't want our baby to be only the second with this name, especially as our baby will be born only 4 months after our friend's baby. We had chosen this name because it's pretty rare, well and now it's not anymore. But it didn't have any history or deeper meaning, we just really liked it.
If it annoyed them and they decided not to be your friend anymore would you be that bothered? Or would you prefer to call your baby by that name forever. Friends come and go but you only name your child once.
if you’re not super close and they’re not the same age i don’t see why it would be an issue