feeling like you’re going through pregnancy alone while having a partner

i really feel like im going through this pregnancy alone and my boyfriend isn’t as in as i am and it can even be the simple things like i was looking at breast pumps and just wanted his opinion because i just feel like a second opinion would be nice and he got so mad and went off about how he’s not gonna use it so why should he care when that’s not the point the point is im scared im doing everything wrong and i thought since hes the father he would be my number one supporter. it’s not even just that either like if we’re ever out shopping of course i go into the baby section and i get so happy looking at stuff and he just gets annoyed and im not sure if as a mom your emotions about everything are just different or what. i also show him educational things about how to take care of newborns like sleep schedules and other things of that sort and he just doesn’t seem to care or listen and it scares me because i’ve learned so much preparing for when i give birth but i feel like he know nothing at all and i feel like im gonna be the only one taking care of our baby. so is this normal for men to act this way or is my anger valid?

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No, It’s not normal the he is acting, yes of course our emotions are all over the place however personally he should be right there with you. You’re carrying his baby for goodness sake. Talk to him about how his behaviour is making you feel in a calm manner. He may not even be aware of it fully. Sending you hugs. 🤍

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It's hard for men coz they have no idea what it's like carrying a baby/being pregnant and they don't get that bond straight away like we do but he should absolutely be supporting you. He needs to know this stuff as well otherwise you're gonna be doing this alone. Anger is very valid

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I'm in a similar place, my partner won't listen to anything or engage with the pregnancy because he's done it before (he wasn't even present then) and I'm terrified everything I'm doing is wrong. Its not normal for men to be like that, they're just shitty men

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