Unhappy in marriage

Okay this is such a vulnerable post and I am aware you ladies don’t know me or my situation so I’ll try and paint it as best I can.
My husband on paper is an incredible man. He tends to me the best way he can, is so good with taking on stuff around the house, has been there for my sister when she needed help like moving etc but there’s one thing. I am not happy and don’t think he is either. We recently got married and had our baby. He really loves me but I just don’t think I feel the same. Now it was a very quick marriage as we are Christian’s but it’s starting to feel like that’s the only reason we got married. I got pregnant before our wedding (we were engaged) and leading up to then it was great but now that I am in the heaps of it there was so much that I feel I missed out on. I am in my twenties and feel miserable. Didn’t do what I wanted to do career wise, wanted to go back to my home country, and in part feel it was a mistake marrying him. He’s great but it just doesn’t feel like he’s my person. Now you are probably wondering, “why did you marry him?” Because I thought it’s what I wanted and also partially due to what felt like the pressure to get married. We had external sources say it’s best to marry before the baby is born etc but I am so unhappy. He just breathes and I get the ick. Now this is where I feel lost… I don’t know if I am just incredibly unhappy within myself and I just need to resolve this OR, he genuinely isn’t my person. I used to be very bubbly and outgoing but through the years I had some personal and family issues occur. He was there to support me but in many ways he didn’t know how. I feel incredibly confused on what to do because I don’t feel like this is how it should be. I feel so lonely, scared and depressed. Sorry ladies I know this is such a heavy one and trust me I am not proud of myself. I think I just want validation but if you were to paint a reality check, what would it be? Because I think most of the time we just want our feelings to be heard but not actually do anything about it and I know intellectually I am keeping myself in this place but struggling to face reality.

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Have you ever had someone threaten/report you to CPS?

This one is triggering and embarassing which is why I made it anonymous. I have had multiple people threaten to call CPS on me because of my childs volume. (He is a toddler.) One of them was someone who was exremely hypocritical assumed the worst and tried to accuse me of "medical neglect". There was none. The others were people claiming that "I have no control over my child" because he was too loud. One of them even tried to accuse me of beating my child when I dont. I do not beat, spank or hit my child in any way. They were roommates who were just trying to get me kicked out because they thought my child was loud all the time. I have even caught them video taping me and my child whenever he got loud or whenever he had tantrums. I was not paranoid. The person who I paid rent to even admitted to me that the other roommates were recording us. She admitted it in text. I also caught her lying about it because a few months before that she lied saying "Nobody is recording you or taking pictures of you. They even showed me their camera roll." (They probably deleted the pics/videos before they showed her) but then a few months later she said "They have plenty of pictures of you and your child. You can't control your child!" Ironically, those same people who reported me or threatened to report me were people who were hypocrites and who did not have custody of their own kids or they beat their own kids (i heard it) or both. One of them even told me they think I should spank my child. (I don't) its almost as if that person was trying to set me up.

Btw: CPS never took my child. I have full custody of my son and I always have. When CPS spoke to me they took my side with each call. I knew I was innocent. They even agreed with me that a lot of his behaviours were common for his age. One of them even said "He looks fine" when she looked at him. It is scary that some people would threaten CPS to people just to intimidate them. Also, i moved. I don't live with those roommates anymore.

Partner keeps wasting money

My partner who has admitted he has a drugs addiction keeps spending £100s each week. Hes saying its not always on drugs but he has nothing to show for it.
Im sick of it.
Its his money and i totally get that and if he was buying a pair trainers or somthing I could actually see i wouldn't be as angry!!!!
We live together and he pays the bills (some weeks like this month ive had to use all my wage on bills - i only do 1 day a week so its basically my pocket money)
Just feel he's stealing from his family..me and our baby because we should be spending it as a family or saving!

Unpopular opinion when you get married your in laws and your parents aren’t adding you to their families. You’re leaving those families and creating your own NEW family.

I don’t like the idea that the in-laws are adding you as a new daughter and their son is still their baby and they all treat you like your still kids that are an extension of them.
If you’re getting married a man should be grown enough he doesn’t need to run to his mommy for everything and is starting his own new family. His wife and children and his # 1 priority and his now extended family (his parents and siblings) are his 3rd priority. And same vice versa for the wife and her family.

Have you ever given birth alone ONLY due to childcare?

Before any asks or judges: our son has never been with anyone but us... No nursery, no other family, no babysitter or child minder etc etc. my family also lives 4000 miles away in Canada and no they cannot fly out last minute due to many reasons as my Mum and step Dad could not afford it due to the cost of living in Canada, my Mum also works for the military so can just book off last minute, we can't afford to fly them out as it would cost $300-$4000 between return flights, paying for a coach from London to West Yorkshire (with their health they can't do a 12 hour layover to come to our local airport), hotel, ubers and food. Furthermore, I am 100% fine with it, to me it will be more magical for my husband to meet his child in the comfort and intimacy of our own home with our little family. Lastly I would rather our son be with his Dad then be separated from us both, with someone different and also going through the stress of having a new baby in the house.

ANYWAYS has anyone else been in the same situation and given birth alone whether it was a vaginal, VBAC or C-section?

Holiday musts

Hi 👋🏼
We’re going on our first family holiday to a caravan in the UK in a couple of weeks. Please can anyone give us tips of what to take and what not to take. My brain fills very overwhelmed right now ahah

When do I start searching for a school & what's the process please? (UK)

My daughter will be turning 3 in October. When should I start looking at schools & what's the process?

I find the thought of it all very overwhelming 😬 plus I don't want to come to terms yet that my baby will be going to school 🥹😭😂