Unhappy in marriage

Have you tried therapy to make sure it’s the marriage that’s causing your unhappiness and not just your lifestyle and the sacrifices you’ve made?

Dont beat yourself up. We all are doing our best when it comes to our family. People fall out of love, and thats okay. Your faith is one thing but your happiness is important and no matter what family or church says, God would never want you to be in a marriage where you are unhappy. God loves you regardless of marital status, he will send you the right person when the timing is right. Being a happy mother is the most important, regardless of your relationship to the father! I wont tell you what to choose, it’s up to you to decide if you think your marriage and relationship is worth working on through therapy and being honest about your feelings to your spouse. But if you dont want to and you really feel like he isnt for you, then no one can judge you, only GOD can! The only way a marriage can work is when your love/bond is strong enough to work through the challenges. He can still be a great father and coparent, either way it’s all up to what makes YOU the best mom for your baby.

I think assuming he’s a good guy, you probably shouldn’t rush to end the marriage. If you’re postpartum AND newly married, hormones and emotions are going to be so wack! Divorce can be expensive, messy, and still not make either of you happy in the end. At the end of the day (again, since this isn’t an abusive situation), love is a choice. I’m sure when you got married you made vows to stick together through thick and thin. Did you mean those vows? Enough to give things a shot now when things are tough?
If you’re struggling emotionally or have signs of PPD, definitely get a therapist!
All that said, can you still talk about your other hopes and dreams with him? Budget for that trip, talk about getting back into a career if that’s what you want, etc. He is not the one preventing you from doing those things, and you’d have the baby whether you were together or not. It’ll probably be easier to reach your goals and dreams together than separate.
Idk those are my two cent

I generally think if your gut is telling you that this is the wrong person for you, I would listen. The only thing I wonder is if your feelings could potentially be from pre/postnatal depression/anxiety or pregnancy/postpartum hormones in general.
I’ve been with someone who was great on paper but just wasn’t right, and when I met my husband I knew I made the right choice leaving my ex. I’ve also been extremely bothered and annoyed by my husband while pregnant/postpartum. I think you’ll just need to look deep within and pray about it to see what is right for you. It might be helpful to talk to your husband about it too, and maybe you could seek counseling at your church if that’s something you’re comfortable with. You could also bring it up with your doctor if you think you could be struggling with pre/postnatal depression/anxiety

i'm also christian and got married very fast while being pregnant with my second baby, me and my husband have been together for over 5 years tho and sometimes i feel the same way, i feel like i don't love him how i did. a lot of it has to do with him having a lust problem and trust issues, but i think when we don't feel filled up on our own we put it all on the relationship, like i haven't felt like myself since being pregnant and i just haven't been happy in general because i don't do well at all in pregnancy, it's a lot giving constantly of yourself all the time and not feeling like your content and happy and excited about life. sometimes i have to take a step back and realize it's not actually abt him, it's that i don't feel happy even on my own, and what can i do to fill myself up of being myself out of the unhappiness. it's just one perspective.

After having a baby, you go through an identity crisis, especially with being so young and not having figured out career/ hobbies/ etc. I think finding who you are aside from a mom and wife is really important right now. You can still get the career you want without separating from your husband. You probably need time and therapy with him before you make a decision. But focus on you mama! I’m in the mist of trying to find out who I am and everything such as religion, school, and work has all changed drastically but putting my family as the one thing I know to be sure is helpful. I’m sorry you’re going through this, it’s so so hard!

Honestly u miss out on what…. U still have a bby with him or with out him make time for urself and start thinking this is just a phase this is just anxiety instead thinking this is meant to end maybe it’s just the hormones and having a bby is really hard everything changes be patient and kind to urself. I could stand my man right after birth I felt like I hated him and during pregnancy I could stand his smell

How long ago did you have your baby? Do you think some of that may be postpartum? Im 5 months pp and I've really been struggling with something similar.

My husband and I got married a few months before I got pregnant so its a little easier for me to separate pp and actual lack of feelings. I would recommend talking to someone. Therapist, close friend sworn to secrecy, stranger. Try to sort through it before you tell him you dont love him. Feel free to reach out to me if you'd like. I won't judge.

Go to couples counseling first. See if it can be worked out.

Girl your very early in your post partum journey and your hormones are still high. This feeling will pass. There’s not a lot of good men these days so don’t think the grass is greener somewhere else, the grass is greener where you water it