Have you ever given birth alone ONLY due to childcare?

I haven’t, but I understand your situation. Our family live an hour away (nothing in comparison to yours) so if I go into labour then my partner will obviously have to stay to look after our son til someone gets to us, by which time I could have had the baby. I feel pretty ok about being alone if I had to, I think most of the health professionals looking after me are going to be much more support & help than my partner anyway 🙈 how does your husband feel about potentially not being there? x

We had a conversation about this with our second as i had never left my first, 20 months, with anyone and still breastfed, we luckily do have family nearby but I just felt so guilty leaving her and she hadn't spent alot of time with them. We decided my partner would stay home until labour got underway then he would come to the hospital and im personally glad as it was a horrific labour, I overstimulated on induction and was basically left alone by the midwifes for hours, it felt easier once he got there. I do think if you had a supportive team it would be manageable, I just didnt second time around, I remember just randomly crying and feeling so abandoned. Baby is 8 weeks old and im still abit bitter about it as i had such a nice experience with my first.

This is only my opinion, but in no way would I be happy with this if it was me. Depending on how far along you are, if you've got even a month or couple of months before birth then I would look into a baby sitter that can support you when you give birth, that way your son would know the babysitter and you'd feel comfortable with leaving your son with them, even if every time they met it was with you as well every single time. There's no way I'd be happy doing it alone on video call, it may be different if you at least had a friend or someone there as a support. No hate or anything, it's only my opinion x

Props to you! Im in a similar situation all my family lives far,a 3hour flight away. Luckily we have a friend we trust to watch our first if husband’s mom does make it in time since she’d have to jump on a last minute flight.

My doula had mentioned a sibling doula to us. We had never heard of them but they are on call to watch your kids when you go into labor. But that was more expensive than the last minute flights. And they’d be a stranger.

Good luck!! You’ve got this!! 🫶🏽

Have you spoke to your hospital/midwife? Sometimes they have people in the hospital (in the areas you are in) to look after your child for people that are in unfortunate circumstance’s like yours. It mean that your husband could be with your son in or near around the hospital and then when you are at the pushing stage or if it is a c-section he can be there and your son would literally just be around a corner. I know you don’t want to leave him with other people but for any reason that something went wrong, he would be there and you wouldn’t be alone. Also within 10 mins your son could be back with you potentially. (Just a thought) but if you are happy with what you what to do, the that is your choice 🥰 I wish you all the luck x