Holiday musts
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Weāre going on our first family holiday to a caravan in the UK in a couple of weeks. Please can anyone give us tips of what to take and what not to take. My brain fills very overwhelmed right now ahah
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Order your nappies and toiletries at the airport Boots so it doesn't take up your baggage allowance and collect it there. Sunscreen if you are headed somewhere warm, fan/pram fan, mosquito patches for kids and a pram mosquito net (if needed), sunsafe swimsuits and hats for kids, water bottle, snacks, few new novelty toys for the plane, a blanket/cuddly toy from home so it smells like home.
Ohhh sorry, in that case probably the toys, snacks, water bottle, blanket/ cuddly toys. We usually order our shopping for click and collect at a nearby supermarket and pick it up as we drive down.
Yes agree with click & collecting from a local supermarket!
Does the caravan you're going to have it's own washing machine? Just means you can pack less if it does. Does it have a bath? How old is your LO going to be? We took our when she was 2 months. It had a bath so took a bath seat, we had a hard base pram, so she slept in that rather than taking a travel cot.
I have a touring caravan, so I don't have to pack as much but my essentials are
Small paddling pool (put in bottom of shower for little ones to treat as a bath)
Their our smelling pillow case (helps them settle better with the smell)
Check in the maps before leaving for a local Laundrett (would help reduce packing)
Depends how old your little one is then bed gaurd rails
We go caravan holidays every year. Iāve got a 4 year old and 1 year old.
ā¢ portable black out curtains - sometimes the curtains arenāt great.
ā¢ washing up liquid, hand soaps.
ā¢ Additional bin bags.
ā¢ Toys , blankets
ā¢ Children cups and cutlery
ā¢ kitchen towels
ā¢ if youāve got younger kids, most donāt really have a bath so we got a small inflatable pool.
Those were the essentials we found really useful :)
Iāve got a touring caravan but this is my list for this weekend, itās her first trip in there sheās 5 months
Travel pram
Sunshade
Rain cover
Rocket
Travel cot
Sheets
Sleeping bags
Love to dream heart
Monitor
Bottled water
Bottles
Formula
Tommee tippee or Nubys
Flask
Sterilising tablets
Bowl for washing
Bowl for sterilising
Bottle brush
Bottle cleaner
Large tub to keep everything in
Plastic container of books and toys
Comforter
Play mat & bouncer
Stocked caddy w/ muslins & bibs ect
Towels
Top & tail bowl
Flannels
5 outfits
5 baby grows plus extra
5 vest plus extra
Socks
All in one
Jacket x2
Hat
Changing bag
Carrier
Head phones
We went to a static caravan at the start of March and my list was similar although less clothes as we only had 3 nights, also Iām not bathing her this time Iām taking a top & tail bowl.
I might give her a little shower depending on facilities on site.
I found it stressful last time using a blow up bath in a tiny space
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