Unpopular opinion when you get married your in laws and your parents aren’t adding you to their families. You’re leaving those families and creating your own NEW family.

I don’t like the idea that the in-laws are adding you as a new daughter and their son is still their baby and they all treat you like your still kids that are an extension of them.
If you’re getting married a man should be grown enough he doesn’t need to run to his mommy for everything and is starting his own new family. His wife and children and his # 1 priority and his now extended family (his parents and siblings) are his 3rd priority. And same vice versa for the wife and her family.

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Kind of both. I agree that your spouse and your kids should be the priority. But inlaws on both sides are still technically family too. Just more distant rather than immediate.

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I'm pretty sure parents are "immediate family" and aunts, cousins etc are "extended family".

But regardless of what you call it, of course your nuclear family (spouse and kids) should come first, before your parents.

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Looking for some advice or even just to know I'm not alone🥺

First of all I'm sorry, this is going to be long. I am 29 weeks pregnant with my second child. We are absolutely ecstatic as a family to finally be close to welcoming another member.

But I'm feeling so utterly guilty about it, not all the time but I just randomly start feeling really upset and tear up over it. My first son is 7 almost 8 so he has been an only child (my baby) for a long time😭 He has shown no signs of jealousy or any behaviour changes at all and cannot wait to meet his baby bro, this is all coming from me and I can't help but feel so upset about it. Is it just hormones or are these normal feelings when welcoming a second child?

Has anyone felt similar? Will it eventually pass?

Thank you🫶🏼

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Gifted toddler - how to proceed?

Our son is 2.5 and everyone has been telling me that he's extremely gifted and that school will be a challenge because he'll be so bored. He can currently:
-Read independently, and knows how to sound out any unfamiliar words
-Count to 50 without help, 100 with help
-identify all basic colors and some niche ones like cyan, magenta
-write his name
-speak in full, descriptive sentences (he is a CHATTERBOX and a total social butterfly, no stranger danger here 😩)
-use the potty independently

However, he's still a toddler. He tantrums, he makes toddler decisions lol, he struggles with big feelings etc.

He is with me (or my mom) 24/7. He's never been to daycare. My question is, how essential is a formal school environment before 5? Should I continue to "homeschool" until kindergarten? Should I seek a Montessori or similar program to challenge him? Any guidance is helpful! He is currently the only child but I am trying for another.

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Losing the will to live..

I’ve had one of those day.. I’m a solo mom of 2 boys.. my 3 year old has been chaos all day.. every half an hour sounds like..,
‘no, you’re making my bed wrong.. no, I don’t like those potatoes, I want different ones.. no, I want more, I want your potatoes too.. no, you’re a naughty mummy.. no, I want to go somewhere fun.. no, you cut my food wrong’

I literally can’t cope and I’m sickened by my sons behavior so much that I can’t even eat the little dinner that I have seeing as he cried about his own dinner and took half of mine. I’m so overstimulated, overwhelmed and tired of everyday being a mental race of all the things I have to do..

It’s my birthday in 2 days and the only thing I seemingly can do is something to entertain my son but he’s so naughty I don’t even want to take him out😞

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Nanny question

I need someone to talk me down. I found out my nanny wore my hat on a walk. I don’t like sharing hats because the idea of forehead oil glands and sweat glands gross me out. Am i wrong to feel negative things about my nanny using my hat?

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Is this fair?

Back story I booked a holiday last year with my mum&her sister for this month.
With everything going on in my life (chronic health, war & possibly about to lose my job in May (redundancies in company) so bill/housing stresses which she knows all this) I’m not in a good frame of mind, my stress is through the roof & this massively affects my health as I’m having more joint flare ups & have been pretty much house bound in recent weeks,
I asked last month to cancel the holiday or reschedule it to a later date, at the time they changed the holiday but only by six weeks to end of May and I still don’t feel up to going next month, I’ve put my foot down for once and said tonight I would not like to go & asked would they still go together (cause there both in there 50s flown for over 30years they don’t need me to go, everything is booked/sorted it’s all inclusive etc)
I’m now currently being guilt tripped by my mum (my aunty hasn’t said anything yet)saying they can’t do boarding passes without me, they don’t do technology, they wouldn’t be able to navigate finding the hotel(coach would drop them off), how unfair I’m being to my son (he’s 3 has no clue about the holiday), how different I’m acting and implying they would have to cancel indefinitely and also lose 50% of payment cause it’s a late cancellation…

They 100% could still go, my mum even moved abroad when she was in her late 20s she has flown a lot more then me and she’s making me feel bad for respectfully not wanting to go and put my health first and she’s saying it’s just not like me…,like I want to be in pain & cancelling a nice holiday, my partner thinks I should just remove my seat now cause he thinks my mum is very entitled & only thinks about her own wants, I’d understand if I cancelled leaving my mum alone but she would have her sister with her, is this fair?

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My daughter is petrified of things that have been there since day one

My daughter (2) is petrified of items in our house and parents house that has been there from before she was born.

She has played with alot of this things she will scream and run away from now in pure terror.

I don't understand what is happening today my sister brought her a fluffy stitch bag as her favorite plate is stitch and one of her toys she plays with is stitch.
But when my sister showed her she was petrified of it ran off screaming, crying and shaking she was hiding in the corner. I'm concerned as I don't know why this happened

She also done this same reaction to an iron man mask my mom has on the top of the kitchen unit been there for years before. She used to ask for it all the time but never was given it due to the value then all of a sudden she was freaked out by it and ran off again screaming, crying hiding away.

Has anyone else experienced this with there child or anyone

I'm worried she is going to get worse over time with everything as its becoming a patten over the last could of weeks. Just want to help her.

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