Looking for some advice or even just to know I'm not alone🥺

I'd say it's completely normal to feel those things. My eldest was 5 when I had my second in June. I had times of feeling so guilty about it both during pregnancy and the first few months of baby being here. I do occasionally still feel guilty, but nowhere near as much. I'd definitely say try and make sure you're able to still have some 1-1 time with your eldest, even if it's just 10 minutes. The feelings do get easier, especially as you see the sibling relationship blossom and grow as baby gets bigger. My boys absolutely adore each other and I'm sure yours will too 🥰

Coming as an only child - greatest gift you can give him.someone in his “camp” (kids!) and as an adult someone to share the burden of responsibility with.

Hey! 👋🏼 yes I have, I had my daughter 12 weeks ago, my son is 8yrs old and second baby was so wanted but I then started to feel this enormous guilt for him because in my head I couldn’t imagine ever loving anyone as much as I love him, and he was the only child for 8yrs - and I was so worried that I was ruining everything for him and I would cry! It got much worse when she was born and I got the baby blues and I felt so so sad when I looked at him, because it was always me and him and mummy and son cuddles and then my time was solely devoted to my daughter. It has got easier now, we have all adapted to the new chapter and he speaks to her and smiles at her and tries to play with her now which is beautiful to see. We are now coming together as a unit if that makes sense but it was hard at first. But I think it’s normal as it’s another big change! I do still have days where I look at him and miss him but he knows I love him to pieces xx

I honestly know how your feeling, but it will get easier once you start to see them bonding and I’m sure he knows how much you love him, it was hard for me at the beginning as I felt like I needed to split myself in to two but just couldn’t and it broke my heart. But those days have got much much easier as time has gone on. It will all be ok I promise 🙂❣️

My son is 7 and about to be 8 and I just had a baby. He LOVES being the older brother. I was worried about the same but he really has taken on the big sibling roll really well.

My eldest is 19 in April and I just welcomed my 2nd baby in Feb and I felt like this its completely normal I would say x

Totally normal, it's that pesky mum guilt. Send that thought out of your head - you will have enough love and time for both your children

1-2 is so much easier than 0-1 as well.

My brother is 7 years younger than me, so I’m not gonna lie but that age gap can be tricky at times. I remember when he first came home I was in heaven and loved having a baby brother. When I left for college, he was in upper elementary school, and so it started to feel like we weren’t as close anymore. I went to college out of state and continued living out of state, and so I didn’t really see him more than a few times a year (though we spoke on the phone with some frequency). I also had a hard time seeing him as a maturing adult and for a long time saw him as his younger self, and I judged my parents for what I considered babying him (even though most of how they treated him was incredibly similar to how they treated me). It wasn’t until we were both out of college that we started really talking frequently, and I was finally able to get over myself and see him as an adult. He’s a huge part of my life now even though we still live in different states.

Mine is 6 and my second is 6 months. I felt so guilty while pregnant even though my first begged for a sibling. I had 0 energy while pregnant so could barely do anything with my first. Now the baby wants constantly held, etc and makes it hard to have one on one time with my first. I feel so insanely guilty. We've explained to my first that for a while the baby needs a lot of attention as he can't do things for himself and we are not doing anything for #2 that we didn't do when he was born and explained it like when we had him he got all our attention, more so than the new baby gets because he was our only. I still feel bad a lot of the time as we don't do as much as we did when I only had 1 but then I watch them play and I watch how the baby lights up when my first pays any attention to him and I tell myself it'll be ok. The day will come where we can all play together, get back to going out etc.