9months old - am I unreasonable?
It might sound silly but I'm a bit worry about my little girl development as my mat leave is over and I'm back to work (hybrid-half a week wfh). My husband will be in charge until sep that we'll send her to nursery. He's is a good and caring dad but he can be a bit ocd for a few things like safety or cleaning...
My concern is that because of his fears he doesn’t let our girl have enough floor time or practice pulling herself up. as he worries she might hurt herself. She’s at a stage where she’s learning to pull herself up and loves to bend and reach for things which I believe shows she’s developing very well but my husband gives her very limited time to practice because he thinks nothing is safe.
For example, we have a shelf in her nursery room that’s fastened to the wall and has a guard on the edges. I let her stand there, grab toys, and put them up and down. My husband forbids this. My daughter also likes to touch our wall mirror and gets excited putting her hands and lips on it but he doesn’t allow her. I’ve tried communicating but there’s no way through.
Am I being unreasonable? Any advice?
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Not unreasonable at all. I do think that when someone else is looking after them it's a bit of give and take (I definitely didn't do enough of this with my husband).
She will still have the opportunity to practice a lot outside of your working hours.
I feel your pain. My partner is a bit like this. Two suggestions: 1) if yoir husband does not hear you, will he listen to a midwife/health visitor? I'm sure they would agree with you and/or be happy to suggest safer alternatives if they thought a compromise of sort might work. 2) are you happy to purchase some added safety features to help problem 1? For example, there are those little backpacks for learning to walk with a tiny pillow in back in case the lo does fall over while trying to stand? And for pitting lips on things, he could just clean everything she does put in her mouth every time. We used to do that with all the toys that fell on the floor - needless to say we stopped now 😅 but if it makes him feel better, why not?
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Need advice
Hi,
I hope you're all well.
I'm looking for soma advice if anyone has been in the same situation.
My little one is 3 months old, my partner has just started a new night shift job to try support me more ( hasn't worked out yet as he's sleeping all day because he's tired) and has reconnected with some old friends. He's told me that they take cocaine all the time, even at work. This weekend he had gone out with them, I'd asked him about the cocaine and he had said he's not doing it, even got defensive and mad telling me to leave it.
After checking his phone he did get some, and even went to get more spending £110. I'm really upset with the fact he's lied to me, I'd been at my mum's over the weekend so today he collected me, I'd tried to talk about it and tell him I know what he's done and I'm not happy about it, he's lied to me and hurt me. He just gets defensive and dismissive and turns it round on me that I've been on his back about the job, sleeping all day, I'm checking his phone ( I literally checked one chat to confirm my suspicions) and I've been at my mum's slagging him off. It just turns into an argument and he doesn't listen to what I have to say. I really don't know what to do, I feel so resentful towards him and feel as though I cannot continue the relationship anymore but I love him so much.
He struggles with an addictive personality and smokes weed daily, even had begun trying to lie about it so I'm worried this will turn into another addicion.
Just the fact that this is the only time we have together now and he would rather go out and do this than spend time as a family has also really hurt me.
I'm not sure how to go about this.
Any advice?
Thank you
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