9months old - am I unreasonable?
It might sound silly but I'm a bit worry about my little girl development as my mat leave is over and I'm back to work (hybrid-half a week wfh). My husband will be in charge until sep that we'll send her to nursery. He's is a good and caring dad but he can be a bit ocd for a few things like safety or cleaning...
My concern is that because of his fears he doesn’t let our girl have enough floor time or practice pulling herself up. as he worries she might hurt herself. She’s at a stage where she’s learning to pull herself up and loves to bend and reach for things which I believe shows she’s developing very well but my husband gives her very limited time to practice because he thinks nothing is safe.
For example, we have a shelf in her nursery room that’s fastened to the wall and has a guard on the edges. I let her stand there, grab toys, and put them up and down. My husband forbids this. My daughter also likes to touch our wall mirror and gets excited putting her hands and lips on it but he doesn’t allow her. I’ve tried communicating but there’s no way through.
Am I being unreasonable? Any advice?
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Not unreasonable at all. I do think that when someone else is looking after them it's a bit of give and take (I definitely didn't do enough of this with my husband).
She will still have the opportunity to practice a lot outside of your working hours.
My mil done it with my little one walking, she still won’t let her walk at her house as she has dogs and worried they’ll knock her over. I have tried to talk to her but she’s too worried. I do think it’s delaying her walking as she watches her 2 days a week for me but she’s always on the move at home and I try and not restrict her whenever I’m with her. I appreciate she’s so cautious with her and would rather that than her having to tell me she’s had an accident x it’s hard but keep doing what you can. Maybe he can teach her different things where they can sit together like flashcards? X
I feel your pain. My partner is a bit like this. Two suggestions: 1) if yoir husband does not hear you, will he listen to a midwife/health visitor? I'm sure they would agree with you and/or be happy to suggest safer alternatives if they thought a compromise of sort might work. 2) are you happy to purchase some added safety features to help problem 1? For example, there are those little backpacks for learning to walk with a tiny pillow in back in case the lo does fall over while trying to stand? And for pitting lips on things, he could just clean everything she does put in her mouth every time. We used to do that with all the toys that fell on the floor - needless to say we stopped now 😅 but if it makes him feel better, why not?
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