How can 1 person make me feel so small??

Sorry for the long rant but this has been on my mind for days and I don’t have anyone to talk to.

For context, I don’t have much family of my own so my partners family have always been amazing to me (especially his mom). We went to his grandparents house a couple days ago & it’s the first time I’ve seen her since the pregnancy and she gave me a bit of a speech that went something like this: “when I found out u were pregnant I wasn’t happy, but everything happens for a reason. My grandson is a hard working man and I’m not gonna see him struggling whilst you sit at home all day doing nothing. When the babies older I’ll help you with anything because I want the best for you but you need to be doing something with yourself not sitting back claiming benefits. You want ur son to say both of you worked hard not just his dad. I won’t let anybody take advantage of him” more context: I’ve been out of work for a while mainly for mental health reasons & I was homeless.

She gave me a hug afterwards but honestly it did make me feel really small and almost like I’m seen as a scrounger using her grandson for his money (I’m really not that kind of girl I don’t even like receiving birthday presents). My partner didn’t say anything at the time but afterwards he apologised for how she spoke to me.

Fast forward to last night, it’s been on my mind so much and genuinely hurt my feelings very deeply. Idk how but it got brought up again by my partner and I basically said nobody is gonna tell me how I need to be and he basically told me to shut up about his nan and “how are you gonna speak about her when she wants the best for her grandchild” I do agree her hearts in a good place but now I’m just like okay so she can talk to me however she wants even tho I want the best for my son?????

This whole situation has made me feel distant from everyone and it’s taken away from my joys of the baby coming because I just feel like other people will try and run my life. Am I overthinking?? I’m not sure because I do think she’s a really good woman who’s raised 5 kids really well and she’s always been nice to me but that speech was the most degraded I’ve felt in my life

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Autism diagnosis

Hello, recently my daughter who is almost three years old got diagnosed with autism a couple weeks ago. We are still waiting on the summary report from the doctors office to be sent over so I am not sure on the level that she is. I can’t reach out for help either for a few more weeks. She’s been in early intervention for two years and progresses very well. I been grieving the diagnosis and a lot of people can’t understand unless you are the parent going through it yourself. The doctors office wants to see her in 8 months to see how she progressing in pre k. I see a lot of people saying it’s Nero and you can’t grow out of it but my doctor said she misdiagnoses all the time and they have to put it in writing so it doesn’t come back on them. She thinks since my daughter is at a young age that is plenty of time for growth & progress and I just wanna get all of the help I need but it’s hard because I don’t know what I’m doing and this is all knew to me. (She was flagged for social skills and speech delay-also sounding out her words correctly) Any suggestions and support would be appreciated 🤍 this is Kinsley Elaine she’ll be 3 December 23rd and she LOVES baby shark finger puppets

Advice needed

Me and my partner live with his mom and his little sister who both always get ill around the end of october and im due on halloween with my first. His little sister does not cover her mouth when coughing or sneezing and his mom is demanding first cuddles with our baby boy when he comes home after being born however she gets ill faster then anyone else in the house and stays ill the longest and his little sister has a habit of walking around the house with ger phone on full volume screaming and shouting when playing games with her friends whilst only being 8. I dont want her waking up the baby when he is down for a nap and she has the worst attitude and my partners mom doesnt do anything about her screaming or when she has attitude so me or my partner ask her to quiet down and have explained that when the baby is here she can not be going round the house screaming and shouting yet she is still screaming at full volume and refuses to do as she is told by me my partner or their mom. What advice does people have for me about protecting my baby from illness and what can i do about my partners sister screaming and potentially waking the baby once he is born. Also my partners mom has already said that people will be coming over and they will all want to see the baby but me and my partner dont want him passed around like a parcel. Any advice for that will be great.

Dad not being in the moment

Does anyone ever struggle with their husband/partner not being present in the moment? My husband is great, he cooks, he cleans, he changes their diapers, he takes care of us. But sometimes, when the kids are doing something for the first time, he's not present. Like today, for example. My son is almost 3 and my daughter is 2 months old. My husband just got back from the gym and my daughter was doing tummy time, and her big bro was copying her and they were having a cute moment together. So I told him to go look at how cute they were! He was on his phone, on instagram or tiktok or whatever. He looks over for a second, smiles and goes back to his phone. I told him to look! And he looks again for a second and that was it. I got so mad cuz I was like why can't you just be in the moment and look at them enjoying a sweet moment together. He said he saw and I was like yeah, for a freaking second. Idk. It got me hella mad. Sorry for rambling. Anyone else feel this?

Does anybody else feel there partner has become a great dad but terrible life partner?

For context we have a 7 month old and have been together for almost three years I only ask because I ask myself every single day what I should do whether that means breaking up or staying together like this man just every day pisses me off, pisses me off like he makes life a living hell sometimes and I try to see through the bad and look for the good, but I don’t know if I should be doing that you know?
Let me know how you handle seeing the good over the bad cause i know there is more good than bad but GOD DAMN he is annoying.

On this week episode of top 5 reasons my toddler got mad at me for

5. I said he couldn’t drink the bath water

4. I said he couldn’t eat the baby wipe

3. I wouldn’t let him unbuckle his car seat while we were driving

2. I got screamed at for now letting him dump an entire cup of water on the floor out of the bathtub

1. I got growled at for saying no he can’t have a 3rd package of fruit snacks before dinner 😂

Please tell me your top 5 in the comments

He turns 2 next month

Can you use these curry paste pots for 7.5 month old?

I’m trying just to give baby what we’re having and I’m cooking a chicken curry. He will obviously not be having much of the sauce but is it ok to use these paste pots? I hate bland food and so does my toddler so I’m really struggling with it all but don’t have the time to be making separate meals this time around. Hope it’s not a stupid question, thanks!