How can 1 person make me feel so small??

Sorry for the long rant but this has been on my mind for days and I don’t have anyone to talk to.

For context, I don’t have much family of my own so my partners family have always been amazing to me (especially his mom). We went to his grandparents house a couple days ago & it’s the first time I’ve seen her since the pregnancy and she gave me a bit of a speech that went something like this: “when I found out u were pregnant I wasn’t happy, but everything happens for a reason. My grandson is a hard working man and I’m not gonna see him struggling whilst you sit at home all day doing nothing. When the babies older I’ll help you with anything because I want the best for you but you need to be doing something with yourself not sitting back claiming benefits. You want ur son to say both of you worked hard not just his dad. I won’t let anybody take advantage of him” more context: I’ve been out of work for a while mainly for mental health reasons & I was homeless.

She gave me a hug afterwards but honestly it did make me feel really small and almost like I’m seen as a scrounger using her grandson for his money (I’m really not that kind of girl I don’t even like receiving birthday presents). My partner didn’t say anything at the time but afterwards he apologised for how she spoke to me.

Fast forward to last night, it’s been on my mind so much and genuinely hurt my feelings very deeply. Idk how but it got brought up again by my partner and I basically said nobody is gonna tell me how I need to be and he basically told me to shut up about his nan and “how are you gonna speak about her when she wants the best for her grandchild” I do agree her hearts in a good place but now I’m just like okay so she can talk to me however she wants even tho I want the best for my son?????

This whole situation has made me feel distant from everyone and it’s taken away from my joys of the baby coming because I just feel like other people will try and run my life. Am I overthinking?? I’m not sure because I do think she’s a really good woman who’s raised 5 kids really well and she’s always been nice to me but that speech was the most degraded I’ve felt in my life

in our community

Advice please

Ok so I don’t know if I’m being extra. My MIL made my baby some soup and told us to freeze it. She gave it in a clean container and said to use the freezer cube tray (which she hadn’t washed and said put in the dishwasher before using)

My husband completely forgot and put the soup in the unwashed container and then I quickly reminded him and he took it back out into a clean container, but defeats the point because it’s already been in the unwashed one. My LO is 8 months old would you give this soup to your little one? Or chuck away?

How would you act?

My 2 year old daughter has been refusing to vocally communicate at nursery although she’s a chatter box at home. We have a close relationship with the headmaster and brought it to their attention and agreed on an action plan together with the staff in the room. Last week, a new room lead joined the nursery and was informed by the headmaster of the plan in place. Despite that, on Friday during pick up and without even taking a moment to introduce herself or giving a prior warning she came to me in front of other children and parents and demanded to observe my daughter speak to me immediately. I told her that she might not feel comfortable and that the staff are aware of her condition and have a plan but she ignored me. She finally gave up when more parents came which they had to attend to. Today, dad went to pick up daughter and she did the same thing to him. We both felt ambushed with her “hallway conversation” and that her actions were completely unprofessional and created a stressful environment for our daughter. How would you act if you were us?

Do you ever wonder if you unintentionally traumatize your kid(s)?

I worry all the time when they get older what they will say I traumatized them about…

Am i overthinking?

So today I was outside with my toddler playing and walking around on our block close to our yard (she was trying to catch a bird lol) anyway, the road we live in gives a good amount of traffic
Then a car slowed down (I didn’t think too much of it because I come to realize ppl slow down when kids are out) next thing you know I hear “hey neighbor”, old man rolling down his window stopped his car to say it, I instantly thought wtf and I never saw him around before, I watched him a bit and he was driving slow as he was driving away, creeped me the fuck out, called my husband right away which he was only 5 minutes away
It really freaked me out, I always felt safe in my neighborhood (though only been here for 2 years) I hate telling my husband stuff like this because he be reaching but I had to and also i can’t sleep now yall, my husband put chairs on all the doors
I work out early morning in our basement and told him to do the same down in the cellar door to outside, even told him to block the windows. I felt and still feel so uneasy about it and now I don’t feel comfortable taking my children out when my husband isn’t home

very excited!!

my baby just ate puree and showed alot of interest in it!! it was avacado which i never expected her to like so much

Weaning

How are we all coping? My little one is 6 1/2 months and I have no idea if I’m doing it right 😅 apparently I should be giving him iron rich food but I have no idea what that is appart from spinach but how do I do that for him? 😅 Also are we Purées or BLW?