Do you ever wonder if you unintentionally traumatize your kid(s)?

Maybe traumatize is a strong word but you know what I mean 😅

Every time me and my husband get into even a mild argument, I think to myself that my son is being traumatized lol we don't even yell or argue often.

I think all parents likely cause harm. Intentionally or unintentionally. We are all fucking up our kids somehow probably. I think it would be impossible not to

I think it’s the good parents who worry about this, the bad ones who actually are traumatising their children for life don’t care so don’t give it a second thought. Nearly every time I sit down after putting my daughter to sleep and think back through the day I make myself feel guilty for all of the things I could have done better. But again, I don’t think we are going to traumatise our kids because we are trying our best and admitting our faults. I mean put it this way, according to my Mum she has been the absolute perfect parent her entire life, never setting a foot wrong, now ask her children and see what they say 🙊

No matter what you do theyre sure to have a complaint so just do your best.

I have BPD which is said to be caused by young childhood trauma. When you think of trauma you think, physical or sexual abuse or neglect or something else major. I had none of that. What I do have is a mother with some pretty unobvious narcissistic traits who chose work over me, men over me, and inflicted emotional abuse, all of which was perfectly hidden under the guise of how well I was being raised.

It’s common for kids of BPD or Narcissistic parents to do the same to their kids, especially since most of those kids will be born being sensitive to mental health issues. I’m scared every day I’m inadvertently doing harm to my daughter that way without even knowing it. I hope when she gets older that all I hear is a bratty teenager telling me i’m terrible bc I won’t allow something or whatever, and not one who tells me I never make them feel good about their self, or that I don’t listen, or god forbid doesn’t talk to me at all.