How does your partner help?

My partner was great whilst on paternity. We were lucky and he was able to take 5 weeks off which was a huge help to me recovering from a csection and being a first time mum. However now it feels like im doing everything. He works shift work and is currently on an 8 day stretch with a variety of shift times. I get it, work is tiring but so is looking after a baby with very little sleep. He'll make me lunch before he goes to work or offers to let me go back to bed but by that point im too awake to sleep enough before baby will need fed again. I want him to help more but idk what he can do to help. I breastfeed and am cosleeping with baby so most nights hes through in the spare room.

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I breastfeed and co sleep too. Me and partner were in seperate rooms but recently we've moved into one room (we can fit both mattresses in). Baby wakes at 6am, I feed her then wake my partner up. He takes her downstairs while I go back to sleep and he gets ready for work. He brings her up to bed when she gets tired (between 7.30-7.45 ish) and leaves for work by 8. He also brings me up a coffee at that time too. Baby goes to sleep and I try to too. In the evening we get her ready for bed and then my partner spends some time with her, usually in the garden for about half an hour. Then I feed her to sleep while he washes up/ tidies downstairs. Once she's asleep I'll either cook, watch TV, go art stuff while he plays games etc or we spend time together. At the weekend he takes her out for a few hours (I feed her before and he takes pumped milk) so I can have a break and then I'll try and do the same at some point on the weekend so he has a break too

Completely sympathise with you on this! When I know my partners got a massive stretch of days coming the dread I feel knowing im going to be solo parenting on minimal sleep is horrible. When he is here he will offer the same with going back to bed for more sleep but I am the same as you! He takes her out quite often to give me an hour to myself and really we just take turns through the day with her. It does feel like you are doing it all on your own though a lot of the time!

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