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How are you typically handling tantrums? And would you say they're mostly meltdowns, or tantrums?

This doesn't sound like an age related phase. It sounds like a big life change situation.

There is now a baby who gets a lot of your time and she's at nursery so she's probably feeling left out. If she's getting a reaction for the negative behaviour she'll keep doing it cos at that age they don't care whether attention is negative or positive

Sounds like she is having some big feelings about the new baby... but you have to stay calm and not give in. No means no. It's going to take a while for her to adjust to sharing her mom and dad with the new baby. I'm speaking from experience I have a 2 +3months and and almost 3 month baby

We had a phase like this, it lasted 2 weeks and sometimes rears its head now. But we held the boundaries but as compassionately as possible. Lots of cuddles and one on one playtime as much as possible. It's hard - all sympathy to you xx

One thing to consider is her diet, what sort of foods and drinks she typical has on a regular basis. I went through something similar with my son as well, I completely cut out dyes and started switch to more organic foods. There’s big a huge change in him, the terrible tantrums and bad aggression stopped. I am a crunchy mom lol but I promise you it’s worth it!

Her age is about cause which leads to effect and at her age she cant manage emotions aa well as an older child could . Acknowledge her feelings and sit with them with her. Show her feelings are valid but behaviours are learned, you’re not born with it. Your behaviour will be a mirror. And I’m not judging or shaming but if you already label your child is evil maybe her behaviour is getting to you and she’s noticing that. you need to see your child as something completely new to this world dealing with everything for the first time you have to be the anchor and show her the power of patience and kindness even if that means a challenges you everyone learns especially with their first child, as we all know that changes everyone of us. You need to be the example and as a new Mom of two, you’re on a new chapter and you have to navigate it well also being there for your first born so I’m sure it’s not easy but no matter what she’s your first born and needs you to understand her more now .

Hey mama, I experienced some difficult behaviour with my little girl when I had my son. Although I wasn't feeling up to it, I made a me and her day and when the baby was napping made sure we had an activity to do together. I know it's difficult. Have you tried getting her involved in caring for the baby? Such as feeding. Getting the nappies and the wipes and stuff like that? My little girl loved helping the baby and helping mummy. She was so proud to tell everyone. And yes it is so much more exhausting, I know but it may help her change her behaviour. xx

That sounds hard. What is her diet going ? Screen time ? Also I would learn about how to deal with a new baby in a family. Very good information in the book "calm parents, happy siblings" so you can help your biggest to adjust.