Reception school (don’t judge pls)

Hello mama’s

I feel bad I haven’t sent my eldest 4 year old to reception. The reason I have done so is, he can’t put on his coat,socks,shoes, or trousers. I help with that and it’s my fault because I find it easier to get done with as I have 2 younger kids.

I don’t want my child to be a burden to the teachers and for them to do a job that’s suppose to be a parents job to teach their kids.

I also came from a family where all my siblings and myself started from year and skipped reception as well as nurseries.

I really want to break that cycle but I’m also scared to send him to school. Any mothers on the same boat and what did you do to deal with situation?

Prior to my eldest, I had 3 miscarriages and I’m scared of loss. I don’t want him to get hurt.

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I think that’s such a normal feeling. Our children are our world so of course we worry for them, especially in environments where we won’t be present.
However, reception and school teaches and encourages independence. It’ll be a great opportunity for your little one to gain a sense of all these things! He’ll also learn lots of other new things, like socialising, confidence building and speech development. And in hindsight, it will also help ease pressure from you a little.
It’ll be scary and nerve wracking at first, but in the long run you and your baby will thank yourself for it!!

Since Covid some schools do pe days to save time. My son has sen and fine and gross motor skills. He’s always struggled with this. Maybe start practising at home using YouTube videos and make it a game. School will support him however obviously it’s not practical to have 30 kids that struggle with this

Start teaching him at home, chances are the at least of one of your other children (depending on age) will begin to copy too

My daughter is in reception and goes into school in her pe kit on her weekly pe day.

In terms of shoes start practicing, get some that are Velcro only and put a sticker cut in half in each side to help knowing which is which.

Coat try putting it on the floor upside down, getting him to put his arms in and flip it over his head. That's how we taught my daughter since young - works well.

I dont really think theres a necessity to send him to reception if you dont need to? Why do we need to force separation from our children before theyre ready 🤷🏼‍♀️ i certainly wouldnt send my daughter to reception if I didnt have to. He wont be the only kid in that position, just work on his readiness in the meantime

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