Period blood (tmi sorry)

So I have a very heavy first day of my period, and sometimes I get blood on the toilet seat but I’ll clean it up, there’s been some occasions over the last few years where it gets on the inside rim and I don’t realise till my partner lets me know a bit later on and I’ll clean it, I do try to remember to lift the lid up and check but if I’m in a rush every now and then I forget

On my last period, I was finishing up in the bathroom and I had to rush out to tend to my toddler, I did quickly check the seat but I couldn’t see anything so went on with my day

Partner then goes to bathroom and notices a drop
Of blood on the floor and some on the front of the toilet bowl (I must have dripped some before I sat on the toilet)

He called me to get my attention to let me know, and told me to come and clean it ……. I said I’m in the middle of doing something can you just clean it please

He’s like no it’s your period you come clean it

Yes I know it’s my period but it was an accident and I feel like instead of ordering me around and refusing to sort it out, he could have just cleaned it quickly and let me know after to double check those places next time

Long story short we argued and after I finished with the laundry I went to the bathroom and I couldn’t see any blood so was relieved that he sorted it out for me, but then I looked closer on the floor and noticed a tiny pink dot, like the size of a rain drop on the floor and a faint pink little line on the front of the toilet , so he didn’t clean it and the reason I never saw them in the first place is because they were so damn small and I didn’t have my glasses on

This is an ongoing argument at the time so just want to see if I’m being unreasonable for expecting him to clean it or if he’s being unreasonable for refusing to clean it 🫠

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His side is he doesn’t think he should have to clean up my blood and I should have better hygiene

My side is if he respected me he wouldn’t have made such a big issue and tried to embarrass me about something that’s natural and I did by accident, I compared it to him leaving shit stains in the toilet , I’ll just clean the toilet if I notice them not call him out and embarrass him and make him come and clean it , but today I made a point of it and now we are arguing again

I wouldn’t be too happy with this either. It sounds like in the space of time he had to call you and tell you about it, he could have already just cleaned it.

exactly!! He made such a big fuss over such a tiny amount of blood which fair enough I shouldn’t be leaving a mess but it was an accident and now it’s a big thing when it didn’t need to be 🙄

Men can be actual children sometimes. Tell him to grow up.

Periods aren’t dirty, or unhygienic.
What a baby of a man.

I have this issue as I have endometriosis and the heavy bleeding sometimes means it goes everywhere in the bathroom without me realising.

I do always have a courtesy look around but with the rim or the quick drip on the floor; it’s easy to miss.

HOWEVER, if I called him into the bathroom every time he pissed on the seat he’d spend half his free time bloody wiping up. Men are dicks. And this myth that periods are dirty or unhygienic is just odd. I’m sure he’s got no problem being all up in there when it’s not bleeding, so why does a little blood coming from there suddenly make you so gross?

Plus I feel like half the time, as mums, the reason we’re rushing around too much to notice stuff like this is other people. So he needs to support you better. Would be my two cents. Whether by helping wipe up or by giving you enough time alone to do it yourself. Bloody mehn!!

I’d be so furious… It’s blood and not some random Persons blood it’s his partner’s. He needs to grow a pair. Idk how many kids you have with him, but idk what he’s gonna do when one of them throws up, poops, pees, or bleeds on him 🙄

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