Just done really

For a start, tell your husband he can shelve the idea of a 2nd baby for a LONG time yet, I'm talking like 3 years! But yeah, babies are hard work, I should know I've done it 3 times, and my youngest is almost 10 months.

Those who say it gets easier are chatting sh!t. It does NOT get easier, it just changes. The challenges I face now with each of my kids are just different, not necessarily easier.

Yes you DO have someone who can take her, that someone is her dad! My fiance struggles with our child more than I do, but he still takes her because he's her dad, and I refuse to never get any time for me, so he just has to learn and suck it up I'm afraid!

Sorry to hear this!

Your feelings are valid and trust me you’re not bad mum or even worse. You definitely seem to lack village support, however you also gotta be realistic. All phases are temporary I promise, I’ve been there… it seem your needs aren’t met hence it’s all impacting.

Also remember if we r stressed, these kids always seems to pick up. It’s important u guys go outside n get some sunshine while it last. I do that, now I have two, don’t ask how lol 😂 despite it all but I do take a day as it comes. Even I lack village like only support I have is my husband but at the moment he is away in different town for work 🙃

Tonguetie release at 12 weeks, contact nap, painful bfding what not yet I’m tandem feeding not by choice. I think u really need to be treated better by giving urself a nice deep tissue massage as that’s what I get once a month… pay by husband.

Also husband has to slowly barge in to make relationship with u guys baby… if baby aren’t well slept then it all goes haywire for sure.

It is hard and emotionally draining, my LO is also in a seperation anxiety phase. I’m starting her in nursery early to get her settled before I go back to work. I’m dreading it. If you ever want to message I’m here to listen x x

I know the feeling. It's so shit isn't it 😞 your feelings are valid and we're all here if you want to talk!