Don’t want to leave my first born😭😭😭

Anyone else extremely sad and anxious to leave their first born😭

He’s 2 and we have never not put him to bed or be here for when he wakes up😭

I’m so sad and anxious about leaving him

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I am planning a homebirth for this very reason so I don’t have to but baby boy currently isn’t playing ball and is breech and the thought of leaving my first is eating me up inside 😭

I’ve been feeling the same. If I think about it too much I sob 😭 I had to do a practice sleepover the other night and he was completely fine and loved spending time with his cousins. Me on the other hand, I was up all night in case they called and said he needed me

Same mine will be 3 in June and also feel the same about leaving her, when I give birth will be the first time 🥺🥺

Same mine is only just 25 months old and never not put her down for her nap/ bed and been here for when she wakes up.

When I mean no one has put her down, I mean no one! So this is really hard for me right now

I’m glad (but not glad if you know what I mean) that it’s not just me😭sorry you are all finding it just as tough!

People make me feel crazy for it, they say things like see it as a break or tell me to do a practice run (I’m like hell no why would I put myself through more upset than I need to). I’ve even said to my husband part of me wants to give birth alone so he can still be here for our son atleast xxx

I was also hesitant to do a practice run (kept putting it off) and then my husband ended up having a big accident and I went with him in the ambulance which meant my parents took our first for a sleepover. I was having a terrible time worrying about both of them and I don't think my daughter even noticed we were gone😭🤣

I'm still not looking forward to leaving her again for labour but if your little one is with people you both trust I'm sure it will help 😭❤️

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