Is your kid the biter?

My sweet 2 year old is the biter in her daycare class and I’m (perhaps irrationally) devastated. It started around 18 months with 2 incidents over about a 2 month period. I thought we were past it, but we just got another incident report at daycare yesterday (she just turned two in early March). We read her a book about biting per the daycare’s advice, and she loves it. She has bit me twice during epic meltdowns (she’s had two tantrums so far and both resulted in me being bit). When this happened I remained calm and said something like ‘I know you’re frustrated and sad but I won’t let you bite’. I know it normal behaviour, I know we’re taking the right steps and reacting appropriately (at least according to the resources our daycare provided), I guess I’m just looking for solidarity 😂. I feel so bad for the little ‘victims’ in her class. My husband (a ‘glass is half full’ kinda person) keeps saying it’s not a bad thing that she’s asserting herself in a class of 6 boys and 2 girls. I appreciate his optimistic take, but gosh I don’t want her to be the bully 😢!

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Well for me my son bites when he's overstimulated / over tired. But he's only like playfully bitten me. Knock on wood he hasn't bitten any friends. I usually have to turn tv off. Or if its at bed time I just put him in bed and come back if I need to. Sorry I don't have much advice on tht. Why is your child biting is the something that happens before they bite t daycare

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Both my boys have been biters 😩 they thankfully both grew out of it pretty quickly. I honestly think it's just a phase and them exploring new sensory things. Just keep redirecting when they try biting and keep explaining that biting is bad and hurts people. It'll pass x

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I have wayyy to much to say about this topic. My son was the biter and we went through so much with it. I ended up having him switch daycares and it almost immediately stopped. The daycare he was at had way too young of kids in his class and wouldn’t take them outside to play, and they were not on a schedule. I think he had too much energy and the staff was completely impatient. He might have also been biting out of defense, idk what was going on in that place.
His new daycare is very scheduled and he gets outside playtime everyday and it’s just a way better environment. He’s also around kids his age or older which has been a better fit for him.
I also got an occupational therapist to help give me tips on what to do and try and analyze his behavior.
The change in environment helped a lot ! A part of it could also be that they don’t know how to express themselves yet it words so they express themselves through bites. At times (rarely) my son will bite me when he gets super excited.

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Redirecting behavior when bites happen and saying kisses instead helped us too. Also not making a big deal about it. I felt like the more I freaked out and said no and put him in time out, the worse it was. When I just redirected his behavior, it was better.

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My boy started trying to bite me around 18 months too! I bit him back after the second time he bit me. He's 2.5yo now and hasn't bitten me since that time I bit him.

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this all tracks! We’re in the northeast and coming off a long winter with limited time outside at daycare. The biting at daycare always happens when another kid tries to take whatever she’s playing with. It started when she was one of the oldest in the ‘toddler 1’ room and soon after the biting started they moved her up to ‘toddler 2’ because she was bored + frustrated with the younger kids. Now she’s again getting to be one of the eldest in the group, so I think she’s just getting peeved when she’s busy with something and another kid comes for it and neither of them can communicate clearly or fully understand the concept of sharing. Ugh.

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tough stuff! At daycare it’s always when another kid tries to take a toy or object that she’s playing with or using. This week it was a tissue box 🤦🏼‍♀️

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Well I hope they aren't just blaming your kid. Yes biting is wrong but they better take care of the other kid taking things it will be a long process

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maybe she just has too much pent up energy and daycare needs to make sure she’s more active or engage her more. Kids do crazy things when they’re bored & hyper.

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lol I started doing this too. Only because I don’t think he understood that biting hurts so it helped him learn the concept and biting did lessen a lot after that.

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this has become more of a concern for me this time around. If she’s saying ‘no’ a bunch and another kid successfully takes a toy….she might be spiralling into a bite. I’ll be chatting with her teachers to be sure I understand the pattern.

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Absolutely do!. You have to know the whole scenario to know how to move forward. Because they don't always tell you what transpired instead they just say your kid bit someone and that's it.

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My son isn’t in daycare and bites me. Nobody else in our household. Just me

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A normal but unsettling thing they do 🤦🏼‍♀️

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I know it’s the age. I’ve worked with toddlers and preschoolers. I don’t use the term normal to describe children. It’s a common or typical way to express their frustration

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My daughter is the perpetrator in our daycare, and her twin was her first victim. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

We have introduced chewy necklaces with a decent amount of success.

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My daughter was the biter in her toddler class. Eventually grew out of it. Having a toy she could bit seemed to help a bit. It totally normal behavior. My son is now in toddlers and somehow he is always the one being bit, seems like every other day I’m getting an incident report, but it’s part of toddlerhood. Seems like you are doing all the right things and in time it will pass.

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Lol no thank god

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