Health visitor

So my health visitor is due round for the 10-12 check up and I know they are gonna want to look around the house and im scared they are gonna comment on my little boys room.
He's on a floor bed as we didn't get on with cots at all! And I'm also in the middle of decorating very slowly as in I've sanded 2 walls would hoover everything up and make sure it's not dusty and then the other 2 walls and the same. I'm yet to paint it looks abit rough.
I know im getting worried about nothing but is there anything they will do or say?

it's taking so long because I dint have a support network that can look after him 😂🙃

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@Helen they haven't done a house visit yet thats why I know they will look around as I was having work don't the first time

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Floor bed is a totally valid sleep surface so as long as it's set up safely they have no reason to give you bother for it. If they do, they're misinformed and this should be flagged. Decorating also won't matter unless there are hazards/safety issues as result. Looking a bit rough doesn't matter, it's health and safety that's the concern.

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My HV didn't look round my house :)

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Yeah my HV never looked round my house I wouldn’t worry x

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Might look around . But just explain your redecorating

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my health visitor never looked in any other rooms other than my bedroom to see where our infant was sleeping 🥰

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They don’t really look at your house. I mean if it was like really dirty or majorly untidy and potentially harmful then they might say something but even then I doubt it x they are just there to see you and baby xx

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We moved house and HV came to visit us. They never looked round the house just sat in living room!

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Is this the 10-12 month review? They don’t look around your house, mine never left the living room.

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@Lisa I was told in September when I saw them last that someone would be out for a home visit but they never came out so just assume they would look around this time

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@Amy I mean I try and tidy and clean as much as possible but I wouldn't say it's dirty or massively untidy it's difficult with a baby and 2 dogs 😂

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Never had the house looked round, was visited during pregnancy and twice after. Even if they do look around, they’re not going to be coming down hard on you for decorating in progress. Deep breaths mama, you’ll be fine 💕

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They don't look around.

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My HV asked to see where my boy slept at his,

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My heath visitors have never had a look round the house, they just kinda looked around the livingroom we were sat in, and when talking about safe places to leave baby for a couple minutes she said that she liked our playpen, and when I apologised for washing out drying she was like no it’s nice to see, they know realistic living conditions 🙂

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I’ve never had a health visitor check around my house? They’ve only ever sat in my livingroom x

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Hv don't look around your house, they are there to check the child and see how they are developing

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My HV didn't check anything in the house. Didn't check anything really at all.

They are also meant to check if you are bottle feeding that you understand about safely prepping and sterilising and they didn't even ask me!

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health visitor and midwife’s have never checked where my little girl sleeps ever and our 10 month check up was actually at there office ! you can also opt out of health visiting services if you feel you don’t need them which i never actually knew x

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They don’t look round the house x

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I have never had a hv look around my house, with either child at any age. For our 9-12 month check with our son, we went to a children's centre

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A home visit doesn’t mean they’ll check around your house, it just means they’re coming to see your child at your house :)

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same as above, never had anyone look around my house for any of the home visits. i feel like it’s either a myth or something heavily outdated, i don’t know anyone who’s had a HV look around.

either way, there’s nothing wrong with a floor bed.

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Also, just remember, heath visitors are optional so you don't have to have a visit at all! X

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@Rachel I really want one just to make sure I'm doing OK with little man as sometimes I don't have a clue 😂

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